"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There is No Magic Bullet

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"Meeting women is no different; it takes work, dedication, and patience to get results." - Nicholas Hill, DJ Bootcamp

Don't be discouraged by your failures. Failure is the building block of success. How will you know how to do things right if you don't know what's wrong? “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” —Thomas Edison. If you aren't where you want to be, there is nothing wrong with you, you are just doing something wrong. Adjust and keep it moving.

The trick to increasing your success rate with anything in life is learning from your failures. "All my losses were lessons" - Nolanberollin, No Aim. If you aren't learning from your failures and being mindful, well...

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

Be great, gentlemen.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm almost glad there isn't a magic bullet, because it would probably be something stupid that I wouldn't want to do.
 

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I'm almost glad there isn't a magic bullet, because it would probably be something stupid that I wouldn't want to do.
Like peacocking? Haha Plus, if there was a magic bullet, no one would build character.
 

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Like peacocking? Haha Plus, if there was a magic bullet, no one would build character.
Lol, peacocking woud be easy. I was thinking more in terms of acting like a retarded fvck boy (Owen from RSD says he can't pull without acting like that). But what feels stupid for one person might not feel as stupid for the next, or vice versa.

As for character, character is great to have for yourself, but I'm not sure how much of an attraction factor it is. I think it definitely can be, only for certain women though. I would think character comes in more during the filtering stage.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There is a magic bullet. It's called always be self improving. It's just too much work and not always easy so those who dont get women continue to struggle. The lazy will continue to say the game is too hard. The other 10% of us will continue to spin 3+ plates rather easily.
 

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@Glassguy Agreed, but for the sake of keeping the post clear for others: There's no shortcuts is what I meant by there is no magic bullet. That's how magic bullet is typically defined.

@zekko having character isn't for women's benefit or for a man's advantage with getting women. I only mention it because building character teaches you that you know how and can deal with difficult situations in the future. Teaches you how to figure things out. That's fundamental to being a better person. That's all.
 

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Yeah, I tried to find one. I love shortcuts. No shortcuts here guys.
 

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If there was a shortcut or magic bullet... Beta orbiters would find out, and I would actually have some competition.
 

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All that sounds like Anthony Robbin's Personal Power. All that never did anything for me 22 years ago, but today I can absorb it duly and allow it to change me and for me to take control of my mind. It's hard to utilize self-help when you're young and don't even know who you are struggling in a fvcked up world. Now that I have not much worries I can take in all masterful advice and have it consume me and put it to work. It's hard to put it to use though as second nature, you gotta constantly keep thinking about it which is work, but if you wanna get ahead...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I was thinking more in terms of acting like a retarded fvck boy (Owen from RSD says he can't pull without acting like that).
I'm sure he has said that, but I doubt it's actually true. Maybe he had to a few years ago, but now I'm pretty sure he knows he isn't limited to that. Also, they often talk in very metaphorical ways, much of what the RSD guys says shouldn't be taken literally.
 

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> "Meeting women is no different; it takes work, dedication, and patience to get results." - Nicholas Hill, DJ Bootcamp

Good quote, but I should clarify that it was bondjamesbond who came up with it in this thread: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/laziness-masturbation.16192/

Where exactly is this "DJ Boot Camp" document? The only copies I can find anywhere is the one I authored on my computer and one you can apparently buy on the Internet!
 

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> "Meeting women is no different; it takes work, dedication, and patience to get results." - Nicholas Hill, DJ Bootcamp

Good quote, but I should clarify that it was bondjamesbond who came up with it in this thread: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/laziness-masturbation.16192/

Where exactly is this "DJ Boot Camp" document? The only copies I can find anywhere is the one I authored on my computer and one you can apparently buy on the Internet!
can I have a copy? DJ bootcamp?
Sorry, I can't afford to pay anything. Probably shouldn't have asked just trying to get free info, I'm guilty asf.
 
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Fantastic
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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