"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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There are 3 types of girls I consistently get

blueline

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1. Hot turbo sluts: They've slept with as many men as their age (usually these girls are like 21-22). They see sex like men do and do not get emotionally attached even after banging it out almost every day for a couple months. Lots of these girls also partially fit into category 2.

2. Damaged hot chicks: These girls are sometimes bisexual and often have some sort of emotional disorder (depression, bipolar, BPD, HPD, etc). They've usually only slept with under 10 guys and they really like relationships. They get emotionally attached like normal girls. However, their psychological conditions make them insufferable.

3. Unattractive stable girls: I can get along with some of these girls amazingly yet I am simply unattracted to them physically. I'll have sex with them when I'm drunk sometimes. This is the vast majority of girls I can get and most of the time I get them when I'm just going about my day-to-day business. I typically avoid having sex with them. I've never had a relationship with one of these girls because I don't see the point if I'm not physically attracted to them.

The turbo sluts and damaged hot chicks are so far beyond the unattractive stable girls in terms of looks (they're usually 7's or 8's whereas the unattractive stable girls are usually 5's and below). When things were going well this spring, I was consistently banging 2 hot turbo sluts for a few weeks. I dumped the second girl out of those two after realizing that I don't want to have anything to do with the life in the fast lane party crew anymore.

I'm sick of all of these chicks. The first two types I have to troll through huge groups of people via partying (I'm actually an introvert; this lifestyle does not suit me, besides I'm almost 25) and it just so happens that the hot chicks that have sex with me are very damaged and/or slutty. I see plenty of hot chicks that don't appear slutty or damaged at all, but they are almost never interested in me. The guys that get these stable hot chicks are often no different from me in terms of game, they do the same things I do with all girls. They're usually just a bit better looking than I am.

I'm not looking to land a stable girlfriend that's a dime. At least a stable 6.5 would be nice, but time and time again they reject me. I'm sociable, dress well, and not all that wealthy because I'm a graduate student. I could definitely use more muscle mass, but I'm naturally thin.

Has anybody run into this problem? Did you ever end up alleviating it? What did you do? Is it the pool that I fish out of fundamentally attracting damaged people?

I don't want to have one night stands anymore, really. I mean, I'll take them when I can get them, but I'm no longer interested in going out to a bar and spending $20 to go home either empty handed or gain something meaningless. The girls I can get to have one night stands with me are either unattractive turbo sluts or hot turbo sluts (mostly the former), neither of which I want anything to do with. I've fucked 7 girls in the last year and gotten physical outside of sex with many more and I'm just fucking sick of it. The few short term relationships that have been sparked have been mostly meaningless and just caused a lot of heartbreak in the end.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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decent catalog, at least your perception is clear
 

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blueline said:
The guys that get these stable hot chicks are often no different from me in terms of game, they do the same things I do with all girls. They're usually just a bit better looking than I am.

I'm not looking to land a stable girlfriend that's a dime. At least a stable 6.5 would be nice, but time and time again they reject me. I'm sociable, dress well, and not all that wealthy because I'm a graduate student. I could definitely use more muscle mass, but I'm naturally thin.
The answer is already in front of your eyes: improve your looks.
 

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Yeah, when I first started a year ago, I was happy enough getting attention from hot chicks. I didn't see the point in working out as I already had a hot girlfriend of the damaged type. I figured, "Wow, I must be pretty good looking if she's into me so much." Then I noticed that the guys that came after me were seriously not much better looking and sometimes worse in both relationships I had with damaged girls. These sorts of girls just want a relaxed, stable guy, which is something I do no problem.

Then when I found out how consistently screwed up these girls I was getting were, I realized that it wasn't the techniques I was using that attracted these girls (well, they do like fast guys, but most girls like a fast and to the point guy) because most guys that get laid with psychologically uncompromised chicks do almost exactly what I do. The most important realization that has come out of this is that I guess money, looks, and to some small extent, personality, are what matters with women.

Those of you guys that came from being skinny to getting jacked and had similar results as me before getting jacked, tell me what happened when you got in shape? Did you finally start landing actually stable, relationship worthy girls?
 

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On the looks department I can't complain I attract decent looking women.

Unfortunately I'm still looking for a quality woman. A woman with a great personality, fun, intelligent, easy going, has her life together, NO DRAMA OR MENTAL BAGGAGE!

I feel like i'm more likely to find a piece of gold than a good woman. The last women I had all had issues. One had daddy issues, one was a bpd that made it all too easy for me, the other one is a single mom.

I think i'm cursed and are destined to keep having short flings with low quality women or maybe i just have to lower my standards and realize there are no good women anymore.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blueline

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Yeah, I really can't complain about the looks of some of the girls I get. The personalities, though. Good God.

I meet babes with these compatible personalities that I have a bunch in common with sometimes and they mostly entirely reject me on a romantic front. Every now and then, they'll just use me for sex and discard me when a hotter guy comes along.
 

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The verdict is in! Improve your looks! Better looks means better looking women will be made available to you.
 

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Drew Carey said it best:

"I want a girl who is not only beautiful, but kind and caring like an ugly woman."
 
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