"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There are 3 types of girls I consistently get

blueline

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1. Hot turbo sluts: They've slept with as many men as their age (usually these girls are like 21-22). They see sex like men do and do not get emotionally attached even after banging it out almost every day for a couple months. Lots of these girls also partially fit into category 2.

2. Damaged hot chicks: These girls are sometimes bisexual and often have some sort of emotional disorder (depression, bipolar, BPD, HPD, etc). They've usually only slept with under 10 guys and they really like relationships. They get emotionally attached like normal girls. However, their psychological conditions make them insufferable.

3. Unattractive stable girls: I can get along with some of these girls amazingly yet I am simply unattracted to them physically. I'll have sex with them when I'm drunk sometimes. This is the vast majority of girls I can get and most of the time I get them when I'm just going about my day-to-day business. I typically avoid having sex with them. I've never had a relationship with one of these girls because I don't see the point if I'm not physically attracted to them.

The turbo sluts and damaged hot chicks are so far beyond the unattractive stable girls in terms of looks (they're usually 7's or 8's whereas the unattractive stable girls are usually 5's and below). When things were going well this spring, I was consistently banging 2 hot turbo sluts for a few weeks. I dumped the second girl out of those two after realizing that I don't want to have anything to do with the life in the fast lane party crew anymore.

I'm sick of all of these chicks. The first two types I have to troll through huge groups of people via partying (I'm actually an introvert; this lifestyle does not suit me, besides I'm almost 25) and it just so happens that the hot chicks that have sex with me are very damaged and/or slutty. I see plenty of hot chicks that don't appear slutty or damaged at all, but they are almost never interested in me. The guys that get these stable hot chicks are often no different from me in terms of game, they do the same things I do with all girls. They're usually just a bit better looking than I am.

I'm not looking to land a stable girlfriend that's a dime. At least a stable 6.5 would be nice, but time and time again they reject me. I'm sociable, dress well, and not all that wealthy because I'm a graduate student. I could definitely use more muscle mass, but I'm naturally thin.

Has anybody run into this problem? Did you ever end up alleviating it? What did you do? Is it the pool that I fish out of fundamentally attracting damaged people?

I don't want to have one night stands anymore, really. I mean, I'll take them when I can get them, but I'm no longer interested in going out to a bar and spending $20 to go home either empty handed or gain something meaningless. The girls I can get to have one night stands with me are either unattractive turbo sluts or hot turbo sluts (mostly the former), neither of which I want anything to do with. I've fucked 7 girls in the last year and gotten physical outside of sex with many more and I'm just fucking sick of it. The few short term relationships that have been sparked have been mostly meaningless and just caused a lot of heartbreak in the end.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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georgie24

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decent catalog, at least your perception is clear
 

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blueline said:
The guys that get these stable hot chicks are often no different from me in terms of game, they do the same things I do with all girls. They're usually just a bit better looking than I am.

I'm not looking to land a stable girlfriend that's a dime. At least a stable 6.5 would be nice, but time and time again they reject me. I'm sociable, dress well, and not all that wealthy because I'm a graduate student. I could definitely use more muscle mass, but I'm naturally thin.
The answer is already in front of your eyes: improve your looks.
 

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Yeah, when I first started a year ago, I was happy enough getting attention from hot chicks. I didn't see the point in working out as I already had a hot girlfriend of the damaged type. I figured, "Wow, I must be pretty good looking if she's into me so much." Then I noticed that the guys that came after me were seriously not much better looking and sometimes worse in both relationships I had with damaged girls. These sorts of girls just want a relaxed, stable guy, which is something I do no problem.

Then when I found out how consistently screwed up these girls I was getting were, I realized that it wasn't the techniques I was using that attracted these girls (well, they do like fast guys, but most girls like a fast and to the point guy) because most guys that get laid with psychologically uncompromised chicks do almost exactly what I do. The most important realization that has come out of this is that I guess money, looks, and to some small extent, personality, are what matters with women.

Those of you guys that came from being skinny to getting jacked and had similar results as me before getting jacked, tell me what happened when you got in shape? Did you finally start landing actually stable, relationship worthy girls?
 

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On the looks department I can't complain I attract decent looking women.

Unfortunately I'm still looking for a quality woman. A woman with a great personality, fun, intelligent, easy going, has her life together, NO DRAMA OR MENTAL BAGGAGE!

I feel like i'm more likely to find a piece of gold than a good woman. The last women I had all had issues. One had daddy issues, one was a bpd that made it all too easy for me, the other one is a single mom.

I think i'm cursed and are destined to keep having short flings with low quality women or maybe i just have to lower my standards and realize there are no good women anymore.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blueline

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Yeah, I really can't complain about the looks of some of the girls I get. The personalities, though. Good God.

I meet babes with these compatible personalities that I have a bunch in common with sometimes and they mostly entirely reject me on a romantic front. Every now and then, they'll just use me for sex and discard me when a hotter guy comes along.
 

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The verdict is in! Improve your looks! Better looks means better looking women will be made available to you.
 

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Drew Carey said it best:

"I want a girl who is not only beautiful, but kind and caring like an ugly woman."
 
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