Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Interesting chartWarrior74 said:
see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of controlWarrior74 said:
exactlyVisited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
There are many ways to interpret that chart. All it really says is "more single women". This doesn't necessarily mean young attractive 18-30 year old women. It includes crazy cat ladies in their 40's and 50's plus divorced women.backbreaker said:see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of control
exactly
It really doesn't, that chart is inaccurate. Boston is at best half and half every time you go out, and many of the women really aren't terribly good looking on most nights at many venues. Even the theater district which is a bit more upscale usually has ghetto women/men. However, its more of a new england thing to have unapproachable groups. People here are very involved into their cliques, so its difficult to get them to break out of that. They put up a wall, and generally aren't friendly.Burroughs said:Interesting chart
Visited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.