"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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That is some funny $hit.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
backbreaker
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it's really not that bad. it just goes tos how that guys who can't get laid at all that's like living in the midwest and thinking well i'll just move to la that's the ticket, the women are stuck up out here as well. but if you have game and you can get laid before you get here it just gets better.
there's a level of shallowness that a lot of women out here have but once you get past that they alls till need **** regardless if they want to be a star or not.
there's a level of shallowness that a lot of women out here have but once you get past that they alls till need **** regardless if they want to be a star or not.
Interesting chartWarrior74 said:
Visited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
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Saw this earlier. Funny ****.
It's not that it's harder out here, though, necessarily. Back east I'm considered good-looking but I find I don't get the same crazy response out here. I get some love but I feel like most women -- at least the young crowd -- prefer pretty boys. I'm a bit more unconventional.
That said, unlike back east, women are much more easily fooled. Fake it til you make it and there are plenty of cheap ways to fool women into thinking you're a movie producer or a successful writer. It's all about status and if you find yourself at the hottest clubs/after parties, women will just assume you've made it.
On a similar note, this is also what you have to deal with out here :crackup: :crackup: :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=G6OVa_cM5i8
It's not that it's harder out here, though, necessarily. Back east I'm considered good-looking but I find I don't get the same crazy response out here. I get some love but I feel like most women -- at least the young crowd -- prefer pretty boys. I'm a bit more unconventional.
That said, unlike back east, women are much more easily fooled. Fake it til you make it and there are plenty of cheap ways to fool women into thinking you're a movie producer or a successful writer. It's all about status and if you find yourself at the hottest clubs/after parties, women will just assume you've made it.
On a similar note, this is also what you have to deal with out here :crackup: :crackup: :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=G6OVa_cM5i8
backbreaker
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see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of controlWarrior74 said:
exactlyVisited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I don't think the ratio is that important, barring some major sausage-fest.
Even if there are more women than men in the east, the attitude and entitlement is actually worse here, as someone noted about Boston.
Having more women doesn't equal easier or cheaper p$ssy. Go out to a bar/club on a night when women outnumber men (like early Sat night with lots of b-day and bachelorette parties) and see if its easier to score. It isn't. 100 women can be just as fussy as 5 women.
Bar/club owners know this and exploit this. Get as many women in as possible and naive guys will think it's a get laid paradise and will pour in the door.
Avoid sausage-fests. Other than that, the ratio doesn't mean jack. One or two independent thinking females can potentially give you more play than a large herd that thinks and acts the same.
Even if there are more women than men in the east, the attitude and entitlement is actually worse here, as someone noted about Boston.
Having more women doesn't equal easier or cheaper p$ssy. Go out to a bar/club on a night when women outnumber men (like early Sat night with lots of b-day and bachelorette parties) and see if its easier to score. It isn't. 100 women can be just as fussy as 5 women.
Bar/club owners know this and exploit this. Get as many women in as possible and naive guys will think it's a get laid paradise and will pour in the door.
Avoid sausage-fests. Other than that, the ratio doesn't mean jack. One or two independent thinking females can potentially give you more play than a large herd that thinks and acts the same.
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There are many ways to interpret that chart. All it really says is "more single women". This doesn't necessarily mean young attractive 18-30 year old women. It includes crazy cat ladies in their 40's and 50's plus divorced women.backbreaker said:see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of control
exactly
That ratio alone doesn't mean sh!t. California has a larger young population than senior population. So there can easily be more single 18-30 year old's in Cali than New York in theory.
The status crap is the same in every over-developed part of the U.S. that's highly populated. Hot girls want Ryan Reynolds just as much in Miami, DC, Philly, NYC as they do in Cali.
Its a shame how many attractive women throw away their youth chasing delusional fantasies. How many bitter 35-40 year old's are looking back at their early 20's with regret... Thinking about all the high quality men they could of married whom they will never be able to attract again for the rest of their cat owning lives. :cuss:
Missed opportunities are a b!tch :wave:
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Funny vid. That ratio chart kinda scared me a bit because I'm taking a trip to Cali later this year with a friend. He told me the black chicks get majorly overlooked in Los Angeles so I was planning to get my Hank Moody on. Now I know I just need to be prepared for heavier bs than usual when I go there. Better get in better mental shape then!
It really doesn't, that chart is inaccurate. Boston is at best half and half every time you go out, and many of the women really aren't terribly good looking on most nights at many venues. Even the theater district which is a bit more upscale usually has ghetto women/men. However, its more of a new england thing to have unapproachable groups. People here are very involved into their cliques, so its difficult to get them to break out of that. They put up a wall, and generally aren't friendly.Burroughs said:Interesting chart
Visited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
The west coast seemed so much more laid back than up here. I visited California twice, and was amazed at how little real effort you need to approach, talk to, and close a women when compared to here. Please tell me if i am wrong, maybe I am missing something with my limited time over in those places. When I get womens numbers here, they usually chat but than seem to go away and stop talking. The girls numbers I got when I visited the west coast wanted to meet up and even (while drinking) would send pictures of themselves!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.