She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Interesting chartWarrior74 said:
see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of controlWarrior74 said:
exactlyVisited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
There are many ways to interpret that chart. All it really says is "more single women". This doesn't necessarily mean young attractive 18-30 year old women. It includes crazy cat ladies in their 40's and 50's plus divorced women.backbreaker said:see what i gather from that chart is that the most single women that the women there are more out of touch with reality than the rest of the US I don't gather that it's necessairly better to be in say chicago or NY trying to game women. i gather that this is where the women feminists/ unrealistic women are out of control
exactly
It really doesn't, that chart is inaccurate. Boston is at best half and half every time you go out, and many of the women really aren't terribly good looking on most nights at many venues. Even the theater district which is a bit more upscale usually has ghetto women/men. However, its more of a new england thing to have unapproachable groups. People here are very involved into their cliques, so its difficult to get them to break out of that. They put up a wall, and generally aren't friendly.Burroughs said:Interesting chart
Visited Boston recently...downtown had good spots with a fair number of cuties from the local colleges...but entitled as hell and super arrogant....lots of 6s thinking they were 9s type of thing...I would never have thought the town would have such a favorable female:male ratio....
on a serous note LA is not as bad as the vid....you're not going to snag girls from Hyde Lounge but if you can project value and have decent looks/fit you'll snag biyaches
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.