She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.reset said:Mr. Me is the future reset. And I don't mean that in a weird way. He's got a good head on his shoulders but is also a sarcastic bastard, like myself.
"Grew?" I'm not sure I want to know how, k? Just keep it to yourself there, reset.:crackup:reset said:But look at the amazing thread it spawned. We all grew from your little experience.
HOMBRE said:Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.
You're a sarcastic bastard, reset? Hmmm, wonder how I missed that part of you? You might want to take lessons from NightHawk. Now THERE'S a sarcastic bastard you can sink your teeth into...so to speak. He's almost like the male version of me. Aim for that. Forget INterloper...he's a wussie. You'll draw the wrong women...err I mean chicks if you follow him.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nope, I would never kick anyone when they're down. None of these men on here sound that down to me though.Rex Man said:Ok Hombre,
Perhaps you haven't realized this, but a lot of these guys on here are good people that have been hurt or lack confidence with women. Then there are those (men and women) that try to offer advice and a little support. Even though I may be harsh myself sometimes when offering advice; there comes a point where you're just being a condescending(sp?) @ss. Do you really enjoy kicking people while they're down? If so, that's just sad really.
:rockon:drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
Yes, and we are giving it to her. That's why she's sticking around.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
HOMBRE said:Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.
I can multi-task! Isn't that amazing? Don't forget to read the part about when I also gave my H a BJ.
Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.HOMBRE said:Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?michaelhctam said:I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.
Quality not Quantity.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
HOMBRE said:Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.
I know this is weird but I'm finding this kind of interesting and entertaining now. I guess it's because the movie is so boring.
I'll get bored with this in time. Don't worry your pretty little head over it, k?
Wow, I have never encountered such awkward use of pseudo-intellectualism, I use large sized words so my message rises above the rest.HOMBRE said:Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?
So why are you here then? Go do the one thing you do perfectly, k?
Oh and don't forget the lube buddy! (wink, wink)
Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.My Name is Nobody said:Yeah right, you can't fool us baby. You are not happy.
HOMBRE said:Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.
What reason would I have to lie to a bunch of strangers? I'm completely being myself and I've been honest about what I've divulged about myself.
Believe it or don't. Fine with me either way.
I love my husband and he loves me. He would never whine like some on here.
He's a good man. A strong man. I hope some of you can get to that place one day yourselves. And I don't mean that way in any sarcastic way...I mean it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.