Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.reset said:Mr. Me is the future reset. And I don't mean that in a weird way. He's got a good head on his shoulders but is also a sarcastic bastard, like myself.
"Grew?" I'm not sure I want to know how, k? Just keep it to yourself there, reset.:crackup:reset said:But look at the amazing thread it spawned. We all grew from your little experience.
HOMBRE said:Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.
You're a sarcastic bastard, reset? Hmmm, wonder how I missed that part of you? You might want to take lessons from NightHawk. Now THERE'S a sarcastic bastard you can sink your teeth into...so to speak. He's almost like the male version of me. Aim for that. Forget INterloper...he's a wussie. You'll draw the wrong women...err I mean chicks if you follow him.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nope, I would never kick anyone when they're down. None of these men on here sound that down to me though.Rex Man said:Ok Hombre,
Perhaps you haven't realized this, but a lot of these guys on here are good people that have been hurt or lack confidence with women. Then there are those (men and women) that try to offer advice and a little support. Even though I may be harsh myself sometimes when offering advice; there comes a point where you're just being a condescending(sp?) @ss. Do you really enjoy kicking people while they're down? If so, that's just sad really.
:rockon:drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
Yes, and we are giving it to her. That's why she's sticking around.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HOMBRE said:Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.
I can multi-task! Isn't that amazing? Don't forget to read the part about when I also gave my H a BJ.
Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.HOMBRE said:Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?michaelhctam said:I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.
Quality not Quantity.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
HOMBRE said:Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.
I know this is weird but I'm finding this kind of interesting and entertaining now. I guess it's because the movie is so boring.
I'll get bored with this in time. Don't worry your pretty little head over it, k?
Wow, I have never encountered such awkward use of pseudo-intellectualism, I use large sized words so my message rises above the rest.HOMBRE said:Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?
So why are you here then? Go do the one thing you do perfectly, k?
Oh and don't forget the lube buddy! (wink, wink)
Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.My Name is Nobody said:Yeah right, you can't fool us baby. You are not happy.
HOMBRE said:Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.
What reason would I have to lie to a bunch of strangers? I'm completely being myself and I've been honest about what I've divulged about myself.
Believe it or don't. Fine with me either way.
I love my husband and he loves me. He would never whine like some on here.
He's a good man. A strong man. I hope some of you can get to that place one day yourselves. And I don't mean that way in any sarcastic way...I mean it.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.