Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.reset said:Mr. Me is the future reset. And I don't mean that in a weird way. He's got a good head on his shoulders but is also a sarcastic bastard, like myself.
"Grew?" I'm not sure I want to know how, k? Just keep it to yourself there, reset.:crackup:reset said:But look at the amazing thread it spawned. We all grew from your little experience.
HOMBRE said:Sounds kind of science-fictiony to me...not really into that.
You're a sarcastic bastard, reset? Hmmm, wonder how I missed that part of you? You might want to take lessons from NightHawk. Now THERE'S a sarcastic bastard you can sink your teeth into...so to speak. He's almost like the male version of me. Aim for that. Forget INterloper...he's a wussie. You'll draw the wrong women...err I mean chicks if you follow him.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Nope, I would never kick anyone when they're down. None of these men on here sound that down to me though.Rex Man said:Ok Hombre,
Perhaps you haven't realized this, but a lot of these guys on here are good people that have been hurt or lack confidence with women. Then there are those (men and women) that try to offer advice and a little support. Even though I may be harsh myself sometimes when offering advice; there comes a point where you're just being a condescending(sp?) @ss. Do you really enjoy kicking people while they're down? If so, that's just sad really.
:rockon:drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
Yes, and we are giving it to her. That's why she's sticking around.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.drak_ool said:so... a woman involved in a "happy" marriage has just spent the last 5 hours talking to a bunch of guys online. that brings up one question in my mind: don't you have nothing better to do (maybe with your husband?) on a sunday afternoon?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HOMBRE said:Hi drak..good question. Well first of all it's not afternoon where I am. Secondly, I've already mentioned that my husband is sitting next to me on the couch and we're watching a movie. I'm not that into this movie though so I'm mostly posting but i'm also talking to him and emailing with my LS buddies. And of course checking out LS.
I can multi-task! Isn't that amazing? Don't forget to read the part about when I also gave my H a BJ.
Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.HOMBRE said:Can you do more than one thing at a time? Just wondering. Thanks for stopping by!
Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.michaelhctam said::rockon:
HOMBRE: Just face it! You want the thing (amongst many others) that is lacking in your life- MALE ATTENTION.
Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?michaelhctam said:I'd rather concentrate on one thing and do it perfectly, than do 3 or 4 more things at a lower quality.
Quality not Quantity.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
HOMBRE said:Actually, my husband is really very attentive of me. I don't lack for male attention.
I know this is weird but I'm finding this kind of interesting and entertaining now. I guess it's because the movie is so boring.
I'll get bored with this in time. Don't worry your pretty little head over it, k?
Wow, I have never encountered such awkward use of pseudo-intellectualism, I use large sized words so my message rises above the rest.HOMBRE said:Gotcha there, Michael. Thou doth protest too loudly, wouldn't you say?
So why are you here then? Go do the one thing you do perfectly, k?
Oh and don't forget the lube buddy! (wink, wink)
Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.My Name is Nobody said:Yeah right, you can't fool us baby. You are not happy.
HOMBRE said:Hey, if it makes you feel better about your life to say that, I don't mind. I've met a few people on LS in person and they can tell you. Research some of my posts on there. I really don't mind.
What reason would I have to lie to a bunch of strangers? I'm completely being myself and I've been honest about what I've divulged about myself.
Believe it or don't. Fine with me either way.
I love my husband and he loves me. He would never whine like some on here.
He's a good man. A strong man. I hope some of you can get to that place one day yourselves. And I don't mean that way in any sarcastic way...I mean it.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.