"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Truth Will Set You Free
- Thread starter Urbanyst
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My apartment is a panty melter.
Just seeing (or hearing) where I live alone is enough for most women to take more interest. Shows I have MONEY and I'm thriving. Often its enough just to live in the city. But to live in a nice part of the city.. even better.
In addition.. having a social circle of successful men with MONEY also helps. Which I do.
Beyond that.. its just how you carry yourself. Clothes make a difference, but I'm not big into being stylish and flashy. I dress well for work, but on weekends I'm a jeans guy.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
What city do you live in?
I have a 4 bedroom house in the suburbs. I guess that doesn't impress women but I'm not gonna change my whole life just for them. They would probably be impressed by a condo or something but why would I want to do that when I already have a 4 bedroom house that I own outright. I live 30 minutes from downtown Orlando.
I wonder why they are impressed with an apartment that somebody rents rather than a house somebody owns. Makes no sense to me, but I already knew they had hamster brains so nothing new.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
What type of work do you do?
If you're not willing to make changes.. then stop complaining about having to "jerk it" every night because you don't have HOT women to f*ck.
Either make the changes.. or keep masturbating. Its up to you lol.
I know guys here are always saying not to do ANYTHING just to attract women. But realistically.. guys who work at attracting women will have more abundance. Its math.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
I'm not going to sell my house to move downtown. I barely even like downtown. Plus, I couldn't possibly fit all my tools in an apartment. I've been getting bored of going out lately. I just work flipping houses every day, 7 days per week. When I go downtown, I just see stupid people.
People have apartments because they work downtown. I don't.
LOL. Love the "Herbanist" nickname.
The appearance of status/VALUE totally matters in cold approaches.
A homeless guy cannot afford clean clothes, good grooming and to take a shower. So that lack of MONEY will impact his success during cold approach.
In addition.. cold approach isn't everything when it comes to getting laid. SO WHAT if you can successfully close 20 women in one day? If they lose interest later because your phone runs out of minutes, you live with rats and your car has more rust on it than paint.. what good are your successful cold approaches anyway?
Reading your posts.. you are all about the upfront "meeting women" but you don't really have sh*t to say about what happens after that lol.