"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Truth Will Set You Free
- Thread starter Urbanyst
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My apartment is a panty melter.
Just seeing (or hearing) where I live alone is enough for most women to take more interest. Shows I have MONEY and I'm thriving. Often its enough just to live in the city. But to live in a nice part of the city.. even better.
In addition.. having a social circle of successful men with MONEY also helps. Which I do.
Beyond that.. its just how you carry yourself. Clothes make a difference, but I'm not big into being stylish and flashy. I dress well for work, but on weekends I'm a jeans guy.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
What city do you live in?
I have a 4 bedroom house in the suburbs. I guess that doesn't impress women but I'm not gonna change my whole life just for them. They would probably be impressed by a condo or something but why would I want to do that when I already have a 4 bedroom house that I own outright. I live 30 minutes from downtown Orlando.
I wonder why they are impressed with an apartment that somebody rents rather than a house somebody owns. Makes no sense to me, but I already knew they had hamster brains so nothing new.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
What type of work do you do?
If you're not willing to make changes.. then stop complaining about having to "jerk it" every night because you don't have HOT women to f*ck.
Either make the changes.. or keep masturbating. Its up to you lol.
I know guys here are always saying not to do ANYTHING just to attract women. But realistically.. guys who work at attracting women will have more abundance. Its math.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
I'm not going to sell my house to move downtown. I barely even like downtown. Plus, I couldn't possibly fit all my tools in an apartment. I've been getting bored of going out lately. I just work flipping houses every day, 7 days per week. When I go downtown, I just see stupid people.
People have apartments because they work downtown. I don't.
LOL. Love the "Herbanist" nickname.
The appearance of status/VALUE totally matters in cold approaches.
A homeless guy cannot afford clean clothes, good grooming and to take a shower. So that lack of MONEY will impact his success during cold approach.
In addition.. cold approach isn't everything when it comes to getting laid. SO WHAT if you can successfully close 20 women in one day? If they lose interest later because your phone runs out of minutes, you live with rats and your car has more rust on it than paint.. what good are your successful cold approaches anyway?
Reading your posts.. you are all about the upfront "meeting women" but you don't really have sh*t to say about what happens after that lol.