"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The thread of would bang and don't know why.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She said she use to like pretty boys, but don't know when a guy takes longer to get ready then here.
I've heard several variations on this. If you're a "pretty" boy, if you're too wrapped up in your looks, if you spend too much time on your hair, all of those things can be a turn off to a woman. Because spending a lot of time on your appearance is a FEMININE trait, it's what women do. It's not masculine. If you are a man of action, you should have a haircut that is easily maintained, that sort of thing. A truly masculine man doesn't sit around worrying about how good he looks.

As for the original post, what nationality is that, Korean? How old is that girl anyway?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I've heard several variations on this. If you're a "pretty" boy, if you're too wrapped up in your looks, if you spend too much time on your hair, all of those things can be a turn off to a woman. Because spending a lot of time on your appearance is a FEMININE trait, it's what women do. It's not masculine. If you are a man of action, you should have a haircut that is easily maintained, that sort of thing. A truly masculine man doesn't sit around worrying about how good he looks.

As for the original post, what nationality is that, Korean? How old is that girl anyway?
When that show Blind date was on, I remember this date it was an attractive black girl HB8. She went on a date with a good looking guy, he was also african american. They went on their date conversed, conversation flowed, laughter. In the middle of their date she hits him with the "you're attractive good looking guy, but I like ugly guys, thugs" This guy didn't know how to react it was hilarious
 

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In the middle of their date she hits him with the "you're attractive good looking guy, but I like ugly guys, thugs" This guy didn't know how to react it was hilarious
Lol, If some girl told me "but I like thugs" on some date, I would leave her in the middle of the street. I can't imagine a bigger red flag than some chick who is literally only attracted to thugs.
 
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