"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The thread of would bang and don't know why.

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She said she use to like pretty boys, but don't know when a guy takes longer to get ready then here.
I've heard several variations on this. If you're a "pretty" boy, if you're too wrapped up in your looks, if you spend too much time on your hair, all of those things can be a turn off to a woman. Because spending a lot of time on your appearance is a FEMININE trait, it's what women do. It's not masculine. If you are a man of action, you should have a haircut that is easily maintained, that sort of thing. A truly masculine man doesn't sit around worrying about how good he looks.

As for the original post, what nationality is that, Korean? How old is that girl anyway?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've heard several variations on this. If you're a "pretty" boy, if you're too wrapped up in your looks, if you spend too much time on your hair, all of those things can be a turn off to a woman. Because spending a lot of time on your appearance is a FEMININE trait, it's what women do. It's not masculine. If you are a man of action, you should have a haircut that is easily maintained, that sort of thing. A truly masculine man doesn't sit around worrying about how good he looks.

As for the original post, what nationality is that, Korean? How old is that girl anyway?
When that show Blind date was on, I remember this date it was an attractive black girl HB8. She went on a date with a good looking guy, he was also african american. They went on their date conversed, conversation flowed, laughter. In the middle of their date she hits him with the "you're attractive good looking guy, but I like ugly guys, thugs" This guy didn't know how to react it was hilarious
 

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In the middle of their date she hits him with the "you're attractive good looking guy, but I like ugly guys, thugs" This guy didn't know how to react it was hilarious
Lol, If some girl told me "but I like thugs" on some date, I would leave her in the middle of the street. I can't imagine a bigger red flag than some chick who is literally only attracted to thugs.
 
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