"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The step-ladder to becoming a DJ.

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Obviously everyone is at different places on their journey, so I was trying to understand where I am and contemplating on self-improvement. Recently I learned in my psychology class about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which came off to me as enlightening. Almost as a step-ladder to becoming a DJ. What you guys think?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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@NDJ just read through almost the entire wiki page and the overview, that's really interesting
 

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Good stuff NDJ. I'm around Level III right now, trying to progress to Level IV, which emphasizes changing my habits to fit my higher internal ideals. I completely understand what my higher ideals are, but I notice myself failing to live up to them. This must stop and more growth must begin.

Also I must encourage the trait of overexcitability (Mindgamez has this in spades). By becoming excited about my next step, I believe I am more likely to complete it.

"Fundamentally, Maslow described self-actualization as a process where the self is accepted "as is" so, both higher and lower aspects of the self are actualized. Dąbrowski introduces the notion that although the lower aspects may initially be intrinsic to the self, as human beings, we are able to become aware of their lower nature. We are able to develop self-awareness into how we feel about these low levels—if we feel badly about behaving in these lower ways, then we are able to cognitively and volitionally decide to inhibit and eliminate these behaviors. In this way, the higher aspects of the self are actualized while the lower aspects are inhibited."
 
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