"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The step-ladder to becoming a DJ.

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Obviously everyone is at different places on their journey, so I was trying to understand where I am and contemplating on self-improvement. Recently I learned in my psychology class about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which came off to me as enlightening. Almost as a step-ladder to becoming a DJ. What you guys think?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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@NDJ just read through almost the entire wiki page and the overview, that's really interesting
 

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Good stuff NDJ. I'm around Level III right now, trying to progress to Level IV, which emphasizes changing my habits to fit my higher internal ideals. I completely understand what my higher ideals are, but I notice myself failing to live up to them. This must stop and more growth must begin.

Also I must encourage the trait of overexcitability (Mindgamez has this in spades). By becoming excited about my next step, I believe I am more likely to complete it.

"Fundamentally, Maslow described self-actualization as a process where the self is accepted "as is" so, both higher and lower aspects of the self are actualized. Dąbrowski introduces the notion that although the lower aspects may initially be intrinsic to the self, as human beings, we are able to become aware of their lower nature. We are able to develop self-awareness into how we feel about these low levels—if we feel badly about behaving in these lower ways, then we are able to cognitively and volitionally decide to inhibit and eliminate these behaviors. In this way, the higher aspects of the self are actualized while the lower aspects are inhibited."
 
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