"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The step-ladder to becoming a DJ.

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Obviously everyone is at different places on their journey, so I was trying to understand where I am and contemplating on self-improvement. Recently I learned in my psychology class about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which came off to me as enlightening. Almost as a step-ladder to becoming a DJ. What you guys think?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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@NDJ just read through almost the entire wiki page and the overview, that's really interesting
 

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Good stuff NDJ. I'm around Level III right now, trying to progress to Level IV, which emphasizes changing my habits to fit my higher internal ideals. I completely understand what my higher ideals are, but I notice myself failing to live up to them. This must stop and more growth must begin.

Also I must encourage the trait of overexcitability (Mindgamez has this in spades). By becoming excited about my next step, I believe I am more likely to complete it.

"Fundamentally, Maslow described self-actualization as a process where the self is accepted "as is" so, both higher and lower aspects of the self are actualized. Dąbrowski introduces the notion that although the lower aspects may initially be intrinsic to the self, as human beings, we are able to become aware of their lower nature. We are able to develop self-awareness into how we feel about these low levels—if we feel badly about behaving in these lower ways, then we are able to cognitively and volitionally decide to inhibit and eliminate these behaviors. In this way, the higher aspects of the self are actualized while the lower aspects are inhibited."
 
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