"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The step-ladder to becoming a DJ.

Dorchester

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Obviously everyone is at different places on their journey, so I was trying to understand where I am and contemplating on self-improvement. Recently I learned in my psychology class about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which came off to me as enlightening. Almost as a step-ladder to becoming a DJ. What you guys think?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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@NDJ just read through almost the entire wiki page and the overview, that's really interesting
 

LearningSlowly

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Good stuff NDJ. I'm around Level III right now, trying to progress to Level IV, which emphasizes changing my habits to fit my higher internal ideals. I completely understand what my higher ideals are, but I notice myself failing to live up to them. This must stop and more growth must begin.

Also I must encourage the trait of overexcitability (Mindgamez has this in spades). By becoming excited about my next step, I believe I am more likely to complete it.

"Fundamentally, Maslow described self-actualization as a process where the self is accepted "as is" so, both higher and lower aspects of the self are actualized. Dąbrowski introduces the notion that although the lower aspects may initially be intrinsic to the self, as human beings, we are able to become aware of their lower nature. We are able to develop self-awareness into how we feel about these low levels—if we feel badly about behaving in these lower ways, then we are able to cognitively and volitionally decide to inhibit and eliminate these behaviors. In this way, the higher aspects of the self are actualized while the lower aspects are inhibited."
 
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