Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
psycho replythe prince said:I've noticed that this works in pick-up environments, too...girls that are attracted to you in clubs or bars (or in other places where they can easily walk by, slowly, closely) WILL DO SO...I always try to smell each of these girls as they walk past...
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"get it?" -got itThe author of this thread mentions an article written by Sisonpyh. For those of you who aren't aware, the article was written over 7 years ago, and "Sisonpyh" is none other than David DeAngelo himself. Here's a link to the thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18392
DeAngelo used the name Sisonpyh back in the early days of the asf newsgroups.
Why did u bump a 19 year old thread?"get it?" -got it
Great thread reference.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why not?Why did u bump a 19 year old thread?
Yes I think you are right. We have only limited access to our subconscious and I would suspect women being more emotional and less rational even more so ^^I've noticed that this works in pick-up environments, too...girls that are attracted to you in clubs or bars (or in other places where they can easily walk by, slowly, closely) WILL DO SO...I always try to smell each of these girls as they walk past...
first of all, it gives you more information...you may not be able to process this consciously, but it gives your animal mind good data...if you smell something you like, your interest will rise...if you don't smell anything, you'll forget about her...try this and see if it works for you...
second of all, after testing this for a few months, I'm also convinced that girls notice this...even when you're subtle and quiet about it, they notice subconsciously...maybe it's a woman thing, but they seem to be more interested after I do this...