"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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- Thread starter A-Unit
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
insanity
Master Don Juan
it's like when you read a book by brian tracy or dr.murphy. if you believe the stuff that they are writing about it will change the way you think and it truly will create miracles in you.
anyways back to the girl. i came to sosuave and i banged into the tip my sh@t theory. to me it was gold and it made sense. i believed everytrhing about that post and i took action and my god it work. was it confidence? or was it the post that i believed in so much that worked?
belief is the key!
insanity
Master Don Juan
some posts here at the forum are about people getting ready to go off to school and whats the first thing on their minds? how do i make friends? how do i meet women?
i ask what about school?
the posts that really grabbed my attention here were the ones that didn't focus on women. it was about getting hobbies, finding a passion, and truly enjoy life and that will attract women your way.
bbestar
Banned
That's kinds of the main point, that I wholeheartedly agree with. Guys get the "bug" of their sexual aggression, and it never leaves them. It consumes them. And their conquest for that one prized woman is a bitter end, because they realize once they have her, which they never do, but once they "think they" do, then all is set. Quite the opposite. In reality, that's when the SEARCH begins for THEMSELVES. That's when they try to found out WHO they are. Because while they spent their most prized possession, their youth, jumping through hoops to get women to satisfy their biological urges, time and opportunity passed them by.
A woman is what a woman is. She will only be BETTER for you, when you are the best TO YOURSELF that you can be. When you don't really NEED outside counsel to get through an issue. When you can find happiness on your own and handle her whimsical ways. A woman is what she is, like an ocean is at times rough and violent. You wouldn't find a calm ocean, anymore than you would find a calm woman. But guys come to these such sites trying to MANIPULATE reality. They either think it will end with finding the PERFECT woman, or the PERFECT tactic, when the REAL paradox is that THEY are to blame. You won't find the BEST woman, but you will find one with whom the worst times aren't so bad, and the best times are the BEST with her that they can be. What makes woman, woman is just that sort of nature, but men are not normally PREPARED to handle her.
It's not any stretch of my imagination to think of a guy going off into the woods for his own good, returning a man, and being able to handle the most prized woman he can find. That's far better than forever remaining a young boy, chasing prized arse, but never really growing up to handle more mature, more beautiful women.
This is the odd paradox to this site. When you come, the PRIMARY driver is HER. Getting the one. Getting her. Or getting many women. IN any event, you continue on, learning the PRIMARY piece is YOU. In figuring that out. The dissolution of MANY relationships is because the person entering any kind of relationship IS NOT TRUE TO WHO THEY ARE. And many guys falter here, because they get the woman, but HOW they got her isn't who he really is. It's easy to WEAR DJ tactics in the short-run, but over the long-run your tendencies come out, and whatever habits you put in play, so that you reveal your inner you and your beliefs, whatever they may be. And then you're back at ground zero. SOOO many new and old posts are....
"Guys I came here like 1 year ago, began dating, had lots of success, worked on myself, got a bunch of women, then began dating one girl seriously. We were great. But then she got weird, and blah, blah, blah. No I'm committed to myself and this site again and the path."
What happened? You fell of the path. Lost hold of the truth. Put the SECONDARY (her) primary, and made the PRIMARY (you) secondary. Foolish. It isn't starting from square one, you were on the path, you fell off, now get back on.
A woman DOES not bring anything to you you don't already have, which is happiness. SHE AUGMENTS WHAT YOU HAVE. Alot of problems occur in a relationship because a guy isn't HONEST. TRULY honest. Guy finds girl, and does what's BEST for the relationship, and not necessarily HER or HIM. Thereby, "lying" to her. This creates a false image of who you are and it creates problems, because when you try to SPRING it back toward where it should be, her history with you is based on a different guy. If you're true to you, you have alot of greatness ahead of you.
A-Unit
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
insanity
Master Don Juan
then 1 day i seen him studying for a exam that all the doctors in my district had to do. after the exam a week later the marks were posted and my dad walked out all humble. he made the top marks.... i said to him, wow your smarter than i thought and i asked him how he beat out the chinese doctors. he told me he imagined walking up to that board and seeing his name at the top of the list. he wanted number 1...he got number 1
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can someone please post a working link for this video...I really want to see what this is all about
www.utorrent.com
Get the torrent from:
www.mininova.org
Enjoy!
-AudiTy =o
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
God I hate bittorrents.
Try this:Scrumtulescence said:
In uTorrent go to Options > Preferences > Connection
and keep hitting 'Random port' until you get one between like 30,000 and 60,000. You may need to then right click the torrent and hit Stop > Force Re-check > Start.
Hope that helps.
-AudiTy =o
bbestar
Banned
When I got to the parking area, just ahead of me a big van parked at the best spot just 10 seconds ahead of me. I said to myself, I was thankful for this person and still feeling good that I deserve the best.
The amazing thing is after about 15 seconds of waiting the same guy reversed from the best spot and just drove past me. I was like wow, I have the best spot..
Just amazing, Glory to God.
I now have solid evidence that you become what you think about.
A few weeks ago I decided to try something.
I have a white pigment spot on my skin to the left of stomach (it's been there since I was 10 or something when I had a little thingy removed there. And I'm 19 now). I said to myself: "I'm going to manifest it to be normal skin"
I just looked at it from time to time and visualised it to be normal skin.
Nothing happened for 3-4 weeks. Then one day (two days ago). I didn't think about it that much anymore. Looked at it. And it's starting to resolve! I can't believe it. It stayed the same for 9 years and now when I visualize it being normal skin it's starting to change into normal skin!
It's not entirely gone yet but I keep you guys updated.
This is measerable proof that you become what you think about (for me atleast, hehe)
I'm not convinced that you can attract anything you want to, but this is very interesting.
I'm hyped!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your subconcious makes this happen. It follows the instructions you have programmed into it (by holding thoughts and pictures in your concious mind) and continues to do so untill you change the instructions.
So when I handed over the instructions about how my skin on that spot should be the same as the rest of my skin, (instead of pale white) (I did so by visualising) my subconcious mind started bringing that into reality.
It's no hocus pocus man. It's just the way the mind and body work.
I couldn't care less whether you believe it or not. I have the proof I need. I could go on and try to convince you but I think it's better if you try it out for yourself on something that's really measurable so you can have your own proof.
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
I don't disprove it, I don't know if you've seen that Adam guy who does remote (dream) healing. You book a session and he tells you to make sure you're lying down at 6pm (whatever) so he can analyse you from wherever he happens to be, then he heals you.Holland said:
He said from when he was small he saw a glowing aura around people, so it was easy for him to win at hide 'n' seek. He was on a popular chat show here in the UK and it all seemed pretty legit, he has tons of testimonials, so I don't discount the powers of the human body, I just said it was weird... Which it is.
So Holland, where do you think the limits lie for regular people to do this? What's possible to change about the human body in your opinion?
Maybe if I visualise having a huge (I mean even HOOGER!) schlong...hmm
-AudiTy =o
typical
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.