"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The problems of an experienced DJ!

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I've been lurking around this forum since the tender age of 14!

To cut a long story short I went from being an AFC in high school, to having a different girl every week in college, to having a failed LTR where I had reverted back to AFC, recovering again and now being in another LTR in which I am happy.

THE biggest problem I have found is maintaining the DJ frame all of the time, this doesn't just apply to women, it applies to everything.

When I frequent SS the DJ mindset comes back relatively quickly.

I'm going to be frequenting the site a lot more, as I know something within my mindset still isn't quite right so I keep reverting back to the AFC state.

The key is in changing your belief system to that of a DJ, and being honest with myself I haven't done this!

Expect to see a lot more posts from me!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great, great, great site. Positives hugely outweigh the negatives, but you have to take the site with a pinch of salt.

Experience is the best way to learn. As has been said hundred times, you can read, read & read..you will learn, but you need to apply

I got better at sex because I started doing it more. I'm now getting experience in a relationship because I'm in one =)

This site has taught me a lot, but a couple people have said what the fu*k you doing on there, it's full of Americans. They take things way over the top. Rainman, you read to much into stuff

I'm in the situation of trying to remain attractive in my relationship...it seems way easier to be attractive when dating women.
 
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lol?

I'm in an LTR, I aint gonna cheat on my current girlfriend, its never going to be me! however I might get some back up chicks should this go down the drain!

Your 100% right rainman, I have the experience, it's just getting back to that place and keeping myself there which is the issue, my confidence just seems to be shot to sh!t at times, more so now than ever!

I've just got to rebuild my confidence step by step!

I need to take my own advice, just relax and be, I'm starting to do at least one thing every day which pushes my comfort zone!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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