"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The problems of an experienced DJ!

playa99

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I've been lurking around this forum since the tender age of 14!

To cut a long story short I went from being an AFC in high school, to having a different girl every week in college, to having a failed LTR where I had reverted back to AFC, recovering again and now being in another LTR in which I am happy.

THE biggest problem I have found is maintaining the DJ frame all of the time, this doesn't just apply to women, it applies to everything.

When I frequent SS the DJ mindset comes back relatively quickly.

I'm going to be frequenting the site a lot more, as I know something within my mindset still isn't quite right so I keep reverting back to the AFC state.

The key is in changing your belief system to that of a DJ, and being honest with myself I haven't done this!

Expect to see a lot more posts from me!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rainman4707

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Great, great, great site. Positives hugely outweigh the negatives, but you have to take the site with a pinch of salt.

Experience is the best way to learn. As has been said hundred times, you can read, read & read..you will learn, but you need to apply

I got better at sex because I started doing it more. I'm now getting experience in a relationship because I'm in one =)

This site has taught me a lot, but a couple people have said what the fu*k you doing on there, it's full of Americans. They take things way over the top. Rainman, you read to much into stuff

I'm in the situation of trying to remain attractive in my relationship...it seems way easier to be attractive when dating women.
 

playa99

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lol?

I'm in an LTR, I aint gonna cheat on my current girlfriend, its never going to be me! however I might get some back up chicks should this go down the drain!

Your 100% right rainman, I have the experience, it's just getting back to that place and keeping myself there which is the issue, my confidence just seems to be shot to sh!t at times, more so now than ever!

I've just got to rebuild my confidence step by step!

I need to take my own advice, just relax and be, I'm starting to do at least one thing every day which pushes my comfort zone!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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