"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The problems of an experienced DJ!

playa99

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I've been lurking around this forum since the tender age of 14!

To cut a long story short I went from being an AFC in high school, to having a different girl every week in college, to having a failed LTR where I had reverted back to AFC, recovering again and now being in another LTR in which I am happy.

THE biggest problem I have found is maintaining the DJ frame all of the time, this doesn't just apply to women, it applies to everything.

When I frequent SS the DJ mindset comes back relatively quickly.

I'm going to be frequenting the site a lot more, as I know something within my mindset still isn't quite right so I keep reverting back to the AFC state.

The key is in changing your belief system to that of a DJ, and being honest with myself I haven't done this!

Expect to see a lot more posts from me!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Rainman4707

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Great, great, great site. Positives hugely outweigh the negatives, but you have to take the site with a pinch of salt.

Experience is the best way to learn. As has been said hundred times, you can read, read & read..you will learn, but you need to apply

I got better at sex because I started doing it more. I'm now getting experience in a relationship because I'm in one =)

This site has taught me a lot, but a couple people have said what the fu*k you doing on there, it's full of Americans. They take things way over the top. Rainman, you read to much into stuff

I'm in the situation of trying to remain attractive in my relationship...it seems way easier to be attractive when dating women.
 

playa99

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lol?

I'm in an LTR, I aint gonna cheat on my current girlfriend, its never going to be me! however I might get some back up chicks should this go down the drain!

Your 100% right rainman, I have the experience, it's just getting back to that place and keeping myself there which is the issue, my confidence just seems to be shot to sh!t at times, more so now than ever!

I've just got to rebuild my confidence step by step!

I need to take my own advice, just relax and be, I'm starting to do at least one thing every day which pushes my comfort zone!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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