"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The problems of an experienced DJ!

playa99

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I've been lurking around this forum since the tender age of 14!

To cut a long story short I went from being an AFC in high school, to having a different girl every week in college, to having a failed LTR where I had reverted back to AFC, recovering again and now being in another LTR in which I am happy.

THE biggest problem I have found is maintaining the DJ frame all of the time, this doesn't just apply to women, it applies to everything.

When I frequent SS the DJ mindset comes back relatively quickly.

I'm going to be frequenting the site a lot more, as I know something within my mindset still isn't quite right so I keep reverting back to the AFC state.

The key is in changing your belief system to that of a DJ, and being honest with myself I haven't done this!

Expect to see a lot more posts from me!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rainman4707

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Great, great, great site. Positives hugely outweigh the negatives, but you have to take the site with a pinch of salt.

Experience is the best way to learn. As has been said hundred times, you can read, read & read..you will learn, but you need to apply

I got better at sex because I started doing it more. I'm now getting experience in a relationship because I'm in one =)

This site has taught me a lot, but a couple people have said what the fu*k you doing on there, it's full of Americans. They take things way over the top. Rainman, you read to much into stuff

I'm in the situation of trying to remain attractive in my relationship...it seems way easier to be attractive when dating women.
 

playa99

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lol?

I'm in an LTR, I aint gonna cheat on my current girlfriend, its never going to be me! however I might get some back up chicks should this go down the drain!

Your 100% right rainman, I have the experience, it's just getting back to that place and keeping myself there which is the issue, my confidence just seems to be shot to sh!t at times, more so now than ever!

I've just got to rebuild my confidence step by step!

I need to take my own advice, just relax and be, I'm starting to do at least one thing every day which pushes my comfort zone!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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