"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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the pain of regret vs the pain of rejection

vagrant

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I was going inside of bestbuy when I saw this beautiful girl standing next to the door talking on her cellphone, waiting for a ride to get home. I could tell this because she had her bestbuy blue shirt and the store was about to close.

Anyhow, I came out of the store, got what I came for and I was surprised to see that she was still there standing by the door. This time she wasn't on the phone.

I knew if it was perfect opportunity but I did not approach. I could tell too that she wanted me to apprach but I didn't.

I'm sure this happens a lot of times with guys and man, let me tell you, regret is more painful than rejection.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I just had tears in my eyes man.hahaha, nah seriously though.

I was in my car when I created this thread and she was still standing by the door when I finished.

I said, man fvck it. I knew it wasn't gonna be pretty but I went for it.

I started my car, rolled my window down, drove up next to her and I said, hey you got a ride? Something like that..I got nervous thinking about the approach..she smiled and said yes and I left feeling high.

I remember about the thread where guys rarely approach. Well, guess what, ill be one of the guys who does starting now.
 

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vagrant said:
I just had tears in my eyes man.hahaha, nah seriously though.

I was in my car when I created this thread and she was still standing by the door when I finished.

I said, man fvck it. I knew it wasn't gonna be pretty but I went for it.

I started my car, rolled my window down, drove up next to her and I said, hey you got a ride? Something like that..I got nervous thinking about the approach..she smiled and said yes and I left feeling high.

I remember about the thread where guys rarely approach. Well, guess what, ill be one of the guys who does starting now.
Idk man a girl rejected me a couple days ago when I asked her for her #, (albeit it was was in high school, in front of her friends...I felt like a dumbass for a couple seconds cuz i WASNT expecting a no...but it wore off I suppose)


Regret to me is just....it pisses me off but I'm not like SH!T I SHOULD HAVE FVCKING APPROACHED HER...I'm now gonna hate myself for a couple hours...or w/e. Cuz usually I approach, even if its to say somehting stupid I approach the girl, and that progresses my social skillilliziz. Feel me man?


But dude. I love your thread! Best Buy is like my favorite store, and theres always biddies working there.
 
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