The pain of being a man

[patb]

Some societies can cause more pain and suffering than others. Pain is a consequence of the social system one lives in. It is important to hold the current system to account instead of internalising suffering.

If men are suffering it is not because they are weak, it is due to society. It is important to look outside and not inside. Men are being played by the system and those in power and invested in it, the system continues because men believe the suffering is their fault, hence they attempt internal change when change needs to happen externally.

100%. Nice break from the drooling rugged individualist retardation that infests the internet like herpes.

 

[Rainman4707]

I have'nt had much pain in my life. Andrew tate said "the most sucessful people have been through PAIN" I've heard a few men advise "do something that HURTS"

Also a good thing i learnt from Jordan peterson is that life is chaos and trauma, you just have to find a purpose.

 

[Rainman4707]

I got some reason to complain, but let's face it, a Sparta warrior handles adversity.

It's a problem of affect/emotions. An alpha doesn't whine, he's unthreatened by anything.

Still, many men have problem with it. I don't act out, I'm in control -- I instead implode. I'm in that sense a useless concrete block. But could be worse.

Problem is what the hell to do with that energy inside (pain etc.), or go smoking like @kavi. A balloon doesn't loose its pressure by squeezing it or letting it be. On the other hand, it got infinite air, so it never stops if one goes crying or whining or whatever.

I think it's some kind of middle ground. Slowly mold the affect into some malleable, dynamic control.

Little steps. Trying doing a little more than you did today.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I thought the thread title was about getting kicked in the nuts.

 

[anonymous12345]

This.
Most dudes who talk like OP are people who simmered in these feelings for too long instead of moving on.. Go outside more and continue the story, stop being stuck on reminiscing over old chapters..

I agree. Forward, surpress, control, move on. Hip hop is all right. Common and Tribe Called Quest are a bit soft for this. Xzibit is adequate.

 

[evan12]

Tl;dr, but for me life has been painful. The fun thing is that this is largely reserved to villains in movies, like the blind dude in Bladerunner 2049 (“You don’t know what is pain”) and the guy in Casino Royale that weeps blood due to a deranged tear canal. Great club.

I’ve had pain, and have to process on a daily basis that I’m concerned I’ll start to like it or it’ll go haywire in some other way.

One can google these things but I haven’t really read anything mind blowing. One can hire some blue-pilled beta therapist that sit there and says “let it all out” or whatever.

It is problematic, as a man, to receive help, because you become dependent on that entity — it solves the problem for you, instead of that you do it yourself. What I hope is that as you wear the pain you grow stronger. The problem is that it sometimes feels like it doesn’t end, or rips you down like napalm or acid. It’s stuck in your head, and time continues to pass by.

Maybe I’m at the latter part of this saga in my life, and it’s good to have built the capability of processing great pain. Life will always have pain. There is value in expression. And having a fitness regime.

(Fill in fap/alcohol/your favorite addiction/coping mechanism.) If you have the same challenge, I hear you bro.

Pain is your body's message telling you something is going wrong, try to listen to yourself and know what exacting is your pain from, what is not going in the right direction in your life.
Do not try to surprise that pain by drinking or weeding, instead just let it be more visible and clear to know its root