She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No problem like i said, i have had this for too long!wolf116 said:ok, I believe you know what you are talking about now. thanks wery much for he cream recomendations and taking the time to type all this info up.![]()
Except that accutane is a really serious drug that you don't want to use except as a last resort. It can mess with your liver, leave your skin bone-dry for months, and permanently affect your night vision. Who knows what the really long term side effects are, too. Only use accutane as a last resort.mexican_player2 said:that, or just go to the dermatologyst and use accutane for 3-5 months and forget about acne in your whole life
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
there are a few ways:wolf116 said:I just made it, so I now have the Jojoba oil and BP wash(or should I get the gel?). I coulden't find the other cream on the shelves of the chemist, they were closing up so I dident ask.
With the jojoba oil, how do I use it? I was just going to put it on after every time I use BP and do I wash it off after?
wolf116 said:cheers, on my BP(the wash one not the creme) bottle it sais leave on for 30sec then rinse off. Do I just ignore that sh!t?
My diet has always been right.
What are your views on squeezing? I can't stop it. they itch like fvck for me and they look disgusting unsqueezed.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ok man GL with it, keep me posted on your outcome and i will try to offer advice when i can.wolf116 said:thanks, I'm starting tonight! See how I go. I'll use my wash then get some creme. I'm also on homeopathics, I don't know if this hippie sh!t will do anything but it can't hurt. This will rewen my homeopathic experiment tho. Oh well
I can't order the other stuff because I don't have a credit card. Maybe I'll ask a doc about it.
I have a apointment with a dermatologist in two months if all else fails.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
wolf116 said:Thats BS. Just because it works for you. I have had a perfect diet for two years.
Well the average Joe also gets FAT, eventually, or he has a pale, complexion due to all that gunk.DJinTraining06 said:Exactly i do too. We're missing the point here people. The average Joe in my high school and college had not a zit on his face and ate taco bell, burger king, and pizza, drank soda, and drank like a fish on the weekends.
We shouldn't have to eat super healthy to have clear skin. that obviously isn't the problem. I'm not sayin i know wat it is, maybe its just in our DNA and theres really nothin we can do until they find a cure (safer than accutane)
but it is def not food. Certain foods make me break out, sure they do. But i have tried healthy food for way too long, and im just not enjoying myself cuz im spending way too much timeand money on my skin. So i rather take accutane and live care free.
Just use it on the night no need to go OTT with it, it can give an oily look, so going to bed is cool, the look fades after about 30mins or so though.wolf116 said:Well I used the oil as a moisturizer at night and woke up with no more puss(unusual). But when I used it in the morning my skin looked all oily and shinny throughout the day. good results tho. Only 3 more puss bombs.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.