Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The offical Sosuave no fap challenge (Let's get it!)

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thechosenone2190

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hey guys. sorry but i'm already on day 7; my friend had suggested that i should take on this challenge a week ago. on day 4, i number closed a hb on the train, something i've never had the courage to do before. you can read about it here (it's approach #30)

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=185927&page=3

though it ended in a flake, i feel like i am making more progress
 

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I started at the beginning of this month, like others I am aiming to get through July. Day 5 so far.
 

Dedication

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I'm in! On day2 right now since i didn't fap yesterday ;)

Goal: No fap till August 19.

I've done this before, went as long as 2 months and i noticed that pretty much no social pressure had effect on me, i could express myself much easier. A bit too easy if i may say so myself. I'm not really able to handle the increase but hey its fun.

Its also interesting to note that in the early stages, at around the first week or two you will notice a heavy increase in drive the first few days kind of like a high point, a couple of days after that you will get lightly depressed you'll notice a low point. Quiting to fap is not all positive emotions, it comes in waves of ups and downs. Thats some material for when you guys notice it as well.

GL HF


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Hahahaha you troll
 

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Failed last night

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suppose to have a chick come over and hang she didn't but another chick ended up......

day 1
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Seems interesting, I'll join the challenge.
Tonights gonna be the last night of sweet fapping time and then I'll try to stop it for a week.
After that, the goal will be 2, then 3, then 4, then forever.

Wish me luck!
 
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I passed a 3 weeks no porno/masturbation then on 1 July I did it for maintance reasons twice then had a wet dream the following night.

Now Im 4 days clean and joining you, the plan is to stay clean forever given that Ill be getting release with girls, otherwise maintenance is planned on 20th.
Anyway trust what Solomon said, your mental abilities will increase esponentially so your physical ones, its not only a matter of hormones but mostly of neurotrasmitters like dopamine.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
I passed a 3 weeks no porno/masturbation then on 1 July I did it for maintance reasons twice then had a wet dream the following night.

Now Im 4 days clean and joining you, the plan is to stay clean forever given that Ill be getting release with girls, otherwise maintenance is planned on 20th.
Anyway trust what Solomon said, your mental abilities will increase esponentially so your physical ones, its not only a matter of hormones but mostly of neurotrasmitters like dopamine.
I can't wait till I have a wet dream, haven't had one of those in years

:cheer:
 

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It increases neurotransmitters, yes, I agree with that. also, hormones. This is health and fitness! Put this in health and fitness... you choir boys!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Who Dares Win

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Solomon said:
I can't wait till I have a wet dream, haven't had one of those in years

:cheer:
To me it happens usually when I dont masturbate for more than a week/10 days without releasing with a girl, but it was common also when I was horny but didnt masturbate.
Actually I was surprised to get one the day after masturbation, probably the body wasnt used to all those hormones stored and overdid.






Social_Leper said:
Maintenance?
You know even if a submarine doesnt go to war, once in a while you have to launch some missile to no target just to keep the cannon clean and ready. :whistle:
 

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Since visiting this site: www.yourbrainonporn.com i've made an effort to quit masturbating and watching porn. So far my longest is only 2 weeks. I just put some website blockers in place which will hopefully help get me to my goal of 1 month. At 2 days right now so its a long road ahead.

Idk if i believe not fapping raises your testosterone, but theres definitely somehting to be said for its effect on dopamine and dopamine receptors. Hopin after a few weeks my libido will be sky high. However, my main issue seems to be that when I can't sleep I end up jerking off.
 

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Had a rough night, still in it, day3. I'm just gonna hit the gym to exhaust myself. I don't want to stay needlessly awake again.
 

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Dedication said:
Had a rough night, still in it, day3. I'm just gonna hit the gym to exhaust myself. I don't want to stay needlessly awake again.
Crap, same here, day 11, got to do some exercise pronto. Are you still in?
 

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Oh yeah i'm still in, its night 5 now. I've done it 2 times before to reach more then a month. It took me 3 years of trying to reach over 30 days.

I now that threads like these, where many people say they will do something usually end up with not even 10% coming through. I know that because i've lied about these kind challanges in the past and i gained the ability to detect people who failed. Guess that the saying is true 'it takes one to know one'.

I'm also assosiating this thread with masturbating, i find that its best to not ever think about it, for me that entails having something to do and staying away from the internet.

You're on day 11, how you feeling right now? I'm still resisting with effort.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well considering that I just had sex after a long day of splashing in the pool, should be easier to get through the next several days.

Day 5.

One week is easy. 2nd and 3rd week I find the most trouble resisting. Anything past that is smooth sailing.
 

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Screw that, I "gave up", I was forced to give up, I could NOT help it, I was so horny I had body pains, felt flushed, body fires, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, insomnia, ETC. I even did tai chi and took a hour long walk but I couldn't get rid of that, excessive YANG energy.
Now I will abstain again for a while... I don't want to jack off too much and exhaust my body either. I hope I am doing the right thing for my health! How does it sound?
How are u guys doing? :)

PS: I don't have SEX.
 
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Screw that, I "gave up", I was forced to give up, I could NOT help it, I was so horny I had body pains, felt flushed, body fires, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, insomnia, ETC. I even did tai chi and took a hour long walk but I couldn't get rid of that, excessive YANG energy.
I believe that this is the feeling that most people are looking for: that zest for life that's difficult to explain to others.

Groovy said:
Now I will abstain again for a while... I don't want to jack off too much and exhaust my body either. I hope I am doing the right thing for my health! How does it sound?
How are u guys doing? :)
From my experience, excessive masterbation certainly isn't healthy, but then again prolonged abstinence has a similar effect on me. As I said earlier in this thread, there's a point that I reach where I begin to lose my sexual appetite (around the 2 week mark). If I get to that point I find it best to ejaculate and start over.
 

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TyTe`EyEz said:
there's a point that I reach where I begin to lose my sexual appetite (around the 2 week mark). If I get to that point I find it best to ejaculate and start over.
I recommend getting a wet dream before you fap again because that is the point were your body says 'its been enough' instead of your mind. Your mind will play tricks on you when you're not fapping, it will try to convince you in any way for you to touch yourself. I think this 2 week mark of yours, is a trick of the mind.

I think i should elaborate on this, i don't mean the physical effect of losing your sexual appetite here, i mean that you think its best to ejaculate.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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