"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The obsessive and creepy guys seem to do great with women, seriously
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Only reason it might be successful is if the guy abruptly cuts off contact and the girl begins to miss the attention.
Other than that, it's pretty much a sure way to fail at creating attraction.
That said, just because it may work here and there doesn't mean that it's a valid strategy or an admirable way of life.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
But I'm always thimnking how he breaks all the rules but still gets girls. If you think about it tho, getting girls is a numbers game. I'll put money on a normal looking guy hooking up if he approaches 10 girls in one night than a good looking guy approaching 1 girl in one night.
It was actually tough work. It took a long time to find a girl that would f*ck him, and even then she took some convincing and she was far from attractive. I actually don't think he's had sex since then either.
So I can't say it's a phenomenon I'm familiar with
Oh, yeah... I think my friends got your friend beat on the creep-o-meter by tenfold Sandow, so bring it :crackup:
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
From what I've seen, the only times it works is:
1)The girl is not terribly attractive
2)The girl has very low self esteem
3) The girl has some problem and feels a HUGE need to hook up to boost her ego and make herself feel attractive. For example say she got dumped/cheated on by her boyfriend.
When girls get like this, sometimes pretty much any guy will do, its not about them being into him. So the creepy guy just happens to be available because he's constantly hitting on her, and for the above reasons, she'll follow up on his offer.
In this way I've seen guys get some action, but it never moves beyond that because she is not actually interested in him.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.