Twist of Cain
Don Juan
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wanted to say thanks for the posts infern0 and way2smart
Not bad. When she commented about the birthday text..."We're not friends. It didn't warrant a response." Keep moving forwardSayWhat said:The ending of the night
First of all I want to say sorry about all the sad stuff and questions I post here. But thanks for the responses.
Now for what happened 10 minutes before I left.
Her new toyboy left 20 minutes before closing time, my ex comes in 10 minutes before closing. I was refilling the refrigerators. First thing she says to everyone 'where is X?' X being her new guy. She starts texting like mad. I keep on refilling, she starts to help and says to me 'you're a real fun guy not answering on my happy birthday wishes', on which I said 'o didn't I respond?'. She says 'never mind'. She sended happy birthday by text three days ago.
Now I know this was just an attempt to make her feel better and in a way I think my response did, but I couldn't come up with something better.
I said to her, you close the bar? And I just left, I said bye to everyone and exited with a loud bye from her.
How did I do?
No need. All of us here know how brutal a break up can be. Stay focused on getting through this and working on yourself.SayWhat said:First of all I want to say sorry about all the sad stuff and questions I post here. But thanks for the responses.
You did fine.SayWhat said:Her new toyboy left 20 minutes before closing time, my ex comes in 10 minutes before closing. I was refilling the refrigerators. First thing she says to everyone 'where is X?' X being her new guy. She starts texting like mad. I keep on refilling, she starts to help and says to me 'you're a real fun guy not answering on my happy birthday wishes', on which I said 'o didn't I respond?'. She says 'never mind'. She sended happy birthday by text three days ago.
Now I know this was just an attempt to make her feel better and in a way I think my response did, but I couldn't come up with something better.
I said to her, you close the bar? And I just left, I said bye to everyone and exited with a loud bye from her.
How did I do?
Breadcrumbs. Way to go sir!Infern0 said:Day 21.
I have to admit the text from her last night bothered me and I had to make an effort not to just text back to be polite. Been there before though and I know her strategy will be to try and friendzone me or else start stringing me along again.
"Miss you" is such a load of crap. It's her fault I left. I gave her many chances, too many.
Keeping to the no contact
drake33 said:You're still friends on Facebook? That's not nc!
Remove her from all forms of social media. Go ghost on her. Also remove her friends and family. You don't exist!Supersubie said:I know, I really don't use it much tbh. I use instagram a lot and I've deleted her off of that etc. I have left her on fb but promised myself if I look at her profile she is gone! So far I have had no interest in looking haha! I honestly wonder if we will ever speak again... I'm not going to initiate contact abs she is was to stubborn to either. So might have dodged a bullet there! Honestly don't need to be dealing with her reaching out and dragging up old feelings!
Probably just a way to spark convo...ignore! You fight fire with water!way2smart said:Today my ex contacted me, accusing me of posting her nude pictures online.
I don't even remember she sent me those pictures. WTF
Yes, but her pictures do appear to be posted online. She sent the link.drake33 said:Probably just a way to spark convo...ignore! You fight fire with water!
If you had nothing to do with it..she must have been sending them out. Sloots gonna slootway2smart said:Yes, but her pictures do appear to be posted online. She sent the link.
Does not thinking about it really helps? Today I exercised a lot and it kept my mind of off it and I felt okay overall. But is this not postponing the problem to later? Or will this later then be a moment I really don't care anymore because so much time has passed?Mauser96 said:My thoughts in bold
Damn, sorry Loz. Did she give breadcrumbs? What happened? How did you get sucked back in? I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Don't be anything for her but her man. No support, no nothing. Pull the rug out from under that bish! If you're done, be done, but don't let her jerk you around. You're above that.Lozboss said:So Folks.
After my ex f*cking me around when we are meant to be dating again I'm finally done.
I gave her another chance and it's clear shes wants me as an emotional support but isn't emotionally invested and doesn't have any intention of being intimate. Like Twist she was Hot/Cold when it suited her and wasn't interested in prioritizing me.
I just couldn't stand being unhappy or worrying about where it was going. Better to cut my losses.
Feel the lowest i've been in a while, feel lonely, feel pathetic for having even tried with her. Feel used.
Tomorrow will be NC day 1, letting the healing begin. Her Loss.
Tough times ahead no doubt but just focused on trying to rediscover the confident, happy me before this bullsh*t.