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When they give you drama, soft next them. The more you give in, the more they will take. Appeasement only makes the aggressor my aggressive. They will only look at you as weak and not kind. Women are heartless creatures that must be kept on a short leash. If you play to them you will get walked over. Your best option is to NC her now.Nn877 said:Well it's been a week now and still radio silence. It amazes me how things come to an abrupt stop idk how to express my current state. I'm obv going thru the loss of having someone but at the same time she's pushed me so far away what am I really missing...sex? Closeness?
I keep replaying nye night in my head and as to why she got so pissed off for me taking the champagne bottle with me when I left, after her clearly being in a bad mood and basically asking to leave. Resulting in her blocking me and hasnt reached out.
Maybe I finally acted alpha instead of staying asking what's wrong and tying to succumb to her needs. Instead I noticed she was in a bad mood I tried to be patient waited and said **** it grabbed my bottle and left.
Prob doing a smear campaign on me to her family and friends, I don't care not my problem I know what I did. I almost wanted to reach out to her and ask for an explanation but that's just me wanting closure. I do have trouble getting outta bed in the morning but no other choice to.
I loved her more than anything at one point and its crazy how now I don't even wanna reconcile. I don't know what she can even say to excuse her behavior.
If someone wants to be in your life they will stay in your life and not let petty **** get in the way. A lot of guys on her chase after toxic breakups/rs but need to step back and think maybe she's doing me a favor. I spent 2 years with her and I'm no angel but I know I'm a solid ass dude. Better wasted 2 years than 20 is the way I look at.
It's hard .. It will take a while and you will be tempted to break NC but don't . She was part of you part of your life ... Now gone. You prob won't get to see her again ever.... Just hunker down and find something new to do. You want to voice back immediately but you won't . Just needs time.zorg198 said:One month and two weeks of NC.
Keeping the good work and trying to improve... talking to girls , getting their number. still feel empty inside. during the week i'm ok but here comes the weekend and i still think about the days i used to hang out with her. fvck. i just want to forget it . when it will be gone ?
Joe.
chaj3_11 said:Im annoying myself. Any advice lads? I ve lost tons of weight etc n bettered myself in every way bar mentally it seems. I feel like i should ask her what the **** but i know she ll just twist it round n say asif your not over me blah blah. Shes one of them, hard as rock n a manipulator of words.
P.s i know im better off without, n can do better. But she wont go from my mind for some reason.
Here's the thing with no contact: everything that is prescribed - no texting, no calling, no e-mailing, no re-reading of old text messages, no looking back at pictures of her, no stalking of her social media - all of it has to be treated in a "I must do this" manner. Not that you should, you must. It's been tried and tested, and it's the closest you're going to get as far as deleting her from your thoughts (think Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind).chaj3_11 said:Only posted once a while back. Basically girl i was with was a single mom and she ended it on the terms of she needed to be single for ages because shes not over how her ex treated her. Its been 2 n half months n shes got a new bf who she has been with since just before xmas. Her manager from work. Now im no oil painting but hes old n really really ugly its not just me having sour grapes everyone says it. My question is, why the hell is this bothering me? Im not gutted or angry its more just a how could she on my mind n me wondering if she cheated on md with him etc. Im annoying myself. Any advice lads?
P.s i know im better off without, n can do better. But she wont go from my mind for some reason.
Now that you know this, delete her from your page and block her.chaj3_11 said:I know what is probably ****ing me up then. I still have her on facebook, which is how i saw the photo n comments etc. The weird thing is she looks ****, i dont have attraction for her. I think its because i now know she lied too me n is happy with someone else so quickly. Whereas im well, lonely when it comes too women. I have tons of friends but on the girl side of things atm its dead.
Apreciate the advice
How long were you with her?fuko2007 said:So the last time I talked to the girl was 10/24/14. The past few days have sucked. It's felt like day one again. Is this normal? I thought after two months I would be good to go.
Yeh same here. I've been fvcking two different girls. I have no intention on trying to have a realtionship with either of them. But even after sex I feel empty and find my self thinking about my ex. But to answers everyone's question it was four years off and onPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Normal. Takes a lot longer than that especially if the relationship was long. Im 6 months out, had fvcked 2 girls then fvcked another girl who I actually am crushing on quite a bit last night and honestly even that felt so fake and empty, was thinking about the ex last night.