spax said:
Fuuuuucking hell boys. I hang my head in shame. I broke the NC rule after about 47 days.
Woke up today with the feels HARD and texted some soppy message like "Hey, I'm sure you're in town now. Hope you're having a relaxing and enjoyable time.
"
No response.
Kill me fuuuuucking now. I am beyond beta. Fuuuck!
Listen to me man. I'm the same as you. I was totally crazy about my ex-wife who was completely awful and disrespectful to me in every single way. I went 113 days no contact until we had to meet up to sort out some financial crap. Admittedly, still loved and cared about her - because I'm good guy. She f*cking destroyed me when we finally met up again. I'll save you all the details, and if you want, PM and I'll talk you through things.
Basically, she was the reason I came to this board. And this board WILL change your life if you listen to the guys here - WE KNOW what we are talking about!!!
You need to stay no contact. Everytime you visit her Facebook page, mention her name, think about texting her, etc, is wasted time on a lousy woman who doesn't even like you.
You are letting her win. Her not texting back basically says she doesn't give a SH!T about you. Embrace that feeling, and use it as motivation to figure out how to be a better guy for yourself and not allow a woman to trample your very core anymore.
The way you win? You blow past this woman and not giving a flying f*ck what she is up to. I would have NEVER gotten over my ex-wife if I didn't ignore her, and I wouldn't have met the incredible, much hotter woman I am with now if I would have continued to think about my ex and what she is up to.
My story is filled with crazy amounts of karma, all because I stayed NC and worked on myself. It got better for me as soon as I cut her out of my life. Imagine the pain my ex-wife went through when she saw me holding hands in public with my new GF? Well, she deserved it.
My life wouldn't be as half as amazing as it is now if I would've made some serious moves. My salary is awesome, I moved to an amazing town, and made almost 100 new friends in the past year or two. I'm working on the last piece of myself and that is getting in some serious shape to complete the puzzle of my life. I am almost there!!!!! You can do it too.
Here's something about attraction. People want what they cannot have. If you would have just disappeared and never contacted her again, she probably would've chased you. The one who cares less will always have the most control in the outcome when it comes to relationships. You need to become elusive, mysterious, and GONE.
Do not contact this woman again. Throw away everything of hers and erase her from your life as easily as she erased you after
seven f*cking years.
Learn about yourself and find out what you really want for a woman. Get out and enjoy life.
See tomorrow as the day you have been reborn and destroy the old AFC version of yourself.