CerwinVegaFan said:Well...Don Juan was a man. This is a male self-improvement forum.
Are you implying that this site is your land and we have to leave according to bible?
CerwinVegaFan said:Well...Don Juan was a man. This is a male self-improvement forum.
You are welcome to stay as much as you'd like, but only if you'll introduce me to your hot friends.Colette said:Are you implying that this site is your land and we have to leave according to bible?
They can't stop usManowar said:I was with a girl for about 3 years. Things had felt a little off the last few months but I didn't expect to be dumped. She texted me one day and said she wanted to come over and talk after work. This was really unusual and I realized what was happening. I texted her back and told her to call me to tell me whatever it was.
Ironically when she got home from work before she called she got the valentine's day card I sent her telling her I loved her. She told me thanks for the card, then said she was upset that I would not let her come over. She said we had become more like friends and that the relationship was over. She said she still wanted me.in her life. She bought a dog during our relationship that I really loved, and she said I could come see the dog.
I kept the conversation short and said very little. I only asked her why she had not said anything sooner and she said "it was never the right time."
After I didn't say anything she asked if I wanted to be friends. I told her I needed time to think goodbye. I immediatly threw away anything sentimental she gave me (cards etc). A few days later I dropped the things of hers I had at my house off at her door while she was at work.
That was 2 and a half years ago. I have never tried to contact her and she has not contacted me. I think I handled it the best way I could have. Although part of me wants to know, and if she ever reaches out to me I probably will demand to know why she couldn't have discussed it with me instead of dropping subtle hints I didn't pick up on until after the breakup.
The biggest thing I worried about is how I should react and what I should say if I bump into her.
:rockon:CerwinVegaFan said:You haven't posted much in detail about what happened during the relationship with your ex so I can't really tell whether or not it applies to you but it's a good piece of info.
I'd like to ask you to post your ways of handling your NC period, 2 years is fairly impressive!
CerwinVegaFan said:You are welcome to stay as much as you'd like, but only if you'll introduce me to your hot friends.
Did I miss something? How do you know what his ex looks like?Colette said:
compare with your ex look ,any girl on this planet is hot.
This prob is the truth and the most insane type of thought process she came with.Manowar said:she just told herself "well I tried to be friends and he didn't want to" and that assuaged her guilt. .
True, but the way I see it, it leads a good 50/50 on how it ended, how he/she wants to lead them along as a backup, mess around for a good 2-8 months, then come back after they went to have fun and to do things for their own selfish need, and come back like they didn't do anything wrong.Mr. Kalikoat said:Haha Noyou you need to calm down with the narcissist accusations. Not every girl in the world is a narcissist man. I know most 18-28 years old girls from the west these days are pretty ****ed up and egocentric, but calling them all narcissists is taking it a bit too far.
If you got a feeling something is wrong, it is.tripod23 said:hi guys.....its been 10 months of nc for me with my long term ex . its been a hard few months if im honest but here I am , still breathing ......well something interesting happened , me and my ex are often employed by a company were we would be working together.
as you can imagine since we split up the company owner has made sure we are not working at the same time , until the end of this month when we were meant to be doing a job were we were both needed.
but the company owner has come to me and said my ex doesn't feel she can handle me being there .
the company owner has tried to get me to go along for only half the shift so our paths don't cross......which has lost me a lot of money , which is just an excuse in my eyes and a load of bs.
my ex has not tried to contact me......... even tho in the past I was the one always patching things up , when really I should have been walking away......!!! this time I have walked
anyway this time I have gone hard ghost and vanished..........no phone calls no texts ....nothing.......for 10 months
im just thinking why is it such an issue and why cant my ex handle me being at the place of work , I mean its not like she has been trying to get me back or anything of that nature , as far as I was concerned she had moved on , and was happy doing her thing........
we have all known this job was coming up , but right at the last minute the bombshell was dropped on me.
anyway I told the owner of the business that its not acceptable to let me down at such short notice , and lose me money .......so told them I wouldn't be taking the offer of breadcrumbs just because my ex sees it fit to create drama..............
im thinking me walking away like a ghost in the night has certainly made my ex stop and think.
iv done my upmost to improve my life as much as poss, its been hard but iv got this far........then all of a sudden bs hits the fan.
my ex and the owner and me were all friends , so reading between the lines I think we all know whats going on here .......
your thoughts are always welcome tho...
stay strong guys and good luck
Hey it's ok if you looked at her FB, twitter, etc. For me it helped see all the bull**** that was going on and how pathetic things are.Cheeks said:Day 3, 6 months later. I haven't been contacting her in that time, but this is only the third day of not looking at her Twitter feed and stuff like that.
For me it was making things worse to see how happy she was without me.Noyou said:Hey it's ok if you looked at her FB, twitter, etc. For me it helped see all the bull**** that was going on and how pathetic things are.
What is bad is if you waste time contemplating on what is and what may be. There is only absolution here.
How do you know that?Cheeks said:For me it was making things worse to see how happy she was without me.