Makes sense, but is that on Tinder? Say I got her number in real life, but I didn't talk about dates/drinks, same thing applies right?Me: Heyyyyy there. Its Glassguy. Whatcha up to?
Her: Just doing blah blah
Me: That sounds so boooorrrrriiiinnnngggg. What do you like to do for fun? Adventurous?
Her: I like blah blah blah
Me: Cool...same here. I gotta run but it sounds like we have a few things in common. I am grabbing a drink Tuesday night around 8. Why dont you join me. Shoot me your number and we can set up the whens and wheres
Thats pretty much it. I agree with building a little rapport, but there is a difference in her qualifying you vs you qualifying her.
I've had plenty of chicks that would tell me they were into shyte that I dislike and I would not ask them out. They are qualifying themselves to me......not the other way around.
If I am doing all of the talking (text and in person) then who is qualifying who?
I dont like asking a chick out right off the bat. I want to find out some things first. Why? Because I have not even made sure that I would have fun with her on a date. Why would I want to go out with someone purely based on 100% looks? She may be a total bytch. Sit and have drink with that personality for an hour? No thanks.
Secondly, without building some minor rapport with her before asking her out, what has she done or how has she qualified herself to me in order for me to even ask her out to begin with? Just because she is attractive? Hell there are a lot of attractive women out there. I am looking for someone that at least also has a good personality if I am going to actually meet up with her.
You qualify her, stay in a strong frame.
And if she doesn't reply after the first message then she's not interested? It's not because the message isn't captivating right?
The message could include several points, and you could span it out for a bit longer right? Or is it best to keep rapport short and sweet to end with a date invite?
Regarding messaging, say I could send an ice breaker, and then send a text back a day or two after just like yours saying "Hey whatcha up to?" or would I need to be more creative? -Because seems like you made your point that it doesn't have to be fancy, if she's in, she's in and there's no stressing about sending the wrong message?
To add, about asking right away, she'll probably be thinking why am I being asked out, does he not care about me, does he care about my looks than my personality?