"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The myth of mental illness!!

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi Eli,
Yes please do write a few thoughts down for us....A prominent Phsychiatrist from the past....R.D.Laing,is also worth reading...His thoughts on Schitzophrenia are particularly interesting.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Any of you guys take meds I think they do more harm than good .
 

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Pretty sure the mother of the woman I was dating faked an afib on the 35th bday of her and her twin brother. Two days in the hospital and ended up leaving with a clean bill of health. Is that sick or what.
 

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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
 

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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
The irony is that those stigmatizing mental health are likely people that have issues themselves. Nobody of sound substance would discourage the betterment of someone else, it is irrational.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hi Gamisch,
Yes you are right,mental illness is very real....Perhaps Eli is suggesting that subliminally for some,it is an involuntary defence?
 

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Hi Eli,
In a Society where most Folk feel there's a pill for everything,over-prescription is inevitable...Years ago I had a Building Business with my eldest son,we had the maintenence contract on a Mental Facility...I would guess one in three of the inmates were in a permanent state of sedation and these were the harmless ones...Why not Google this,I am sure there are lots of opinions and Studies there.
 

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Pretty sure the mother of the woman I was dating faked an afib on the 35th bday of her and her twin brother. Two days in the hospital and ended up leaving with a clean bill of health. Is that sick or what.
AFib is no joke. I had a single episode about 10 years ago and I thought I was having a heart attack...my heart was literally going crazy.

Got to the hospital and they were all non-chalanat and were like "Oh yeah, you are just having an AFib episode, you'll be fine."

Meanwhile they have me hooked up to machine monitoring my vitals and I am watching my heart rate bounce around between 60 and 150 randomly and trying not to freak out because I could feel my heart going all over the place and beating erratically.

Never had another episode but have to take medicine for it or have a procedure called an ablation to fix it but they don't always fix it the first time and sometimes you need to have it done two or three times to fix it and the only way you'll know is by going into another AFib episode.

Fvck that...I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Scariest sh!t I ever experienced.

Only positive is now I have to see a cardiologist yearly and have had multiple EKG's, echoes and stress echoes done over the years and my heart is in perfect health. Essentially I will likely know if I have a problem well before most people would that don't have these things done and just randomly have a CV event one day.
 

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Narcissistic traits are difficult to treat.
From the POV of someone who doesn't engage in gossip or talk back to others, witnessing another person doing so in front of you, especially when it involves someone close to you, can be quite surprising.

Furthermore, the individual being gossiped about often returns to compliment the person who has been gossiping about them behind their back, praising them for how they make them feel.
It's quite astonishing. Narcissistic traits are difficult to treat. But they are attractive.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Preach to them we have are issues but popping pills should be your last resort !!
 
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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
Men always bully each other.

If you take it personal, you aren't doing it right.

It's not personal, bro.
 
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AFib is no joke. I had a single episode about 10 years ago and I thought I was having a heart attack...my heart was literally going crazy.

Got to the hospital and they were all non-chalanat and were like "Oh yeah, you are just having an AFib episode, you'll be fine."

Meanwhile they have me hooked up to machine monitoring my vitals and I am watching my heart rate bounce around between 60 and 150 randomly and trying not to freak out because I could feel my heart going all over the place and beating erratically.

Never had another episode but have to take medicine for it or have a procedure called an ablation to fix it but they don't always fix it the first time and sometimes you need to have it done two or three times to fix it and the only way you'll know is by going into another AFib episode.

Fvck that...I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Scariest sh!t I ever experienced.

Only positive is now I have to see a cardiologist yearly and have had multiple EKG's, echoes and stress echoes done over the years and my heart is in perfect health. Essentially I will likely know if I have a problem well before most people would that don't have these things done and just randomly have a CV event one day.
They have you scared now, so you go back again and again.

They tried the same thing on me with an irregular heartbeat.

I went in specifically for this to be checked. They tell me they don't know what causes it, and a lot of people have it. I need to see a cardiologist.

I go to see the specialist, and he makes me feel stupid for being there, tells me my heart looks great.

Meanwhile, my irregular heartbeat stops on it's own (Pretty sure it was stress induced).

I think most health problems can be cured with keto and intermittent fasting.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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