"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The myth of mental illness!!

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi Eli,
Yes please do write a few thoughts down for us....A prominent Phsychiatrist from the past....R.D.Laing,is also worth reading...His thoughts on Schitzophrenia are particularly interesting.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Any of you guys take meds I think they do more harm than good .
 

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Pretty sure the mother of the woman I was dating faked an afib on the 35th bday of her and her twin brother. Two days in the hospital and ended up leaving with a clean bill of health. Is that sick or what.
 

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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
 

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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
The irony is that those stigmatizing mental health are likely people that have issues themselves. Nobody of sound substance would discourage the betterment of someone else, it is irrational.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hi Gamisch,
Yes you are right,mental illness is very real....Perhaps Eli is suggesting that subliminally for some,it is an involuntary defence?
 

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Hi Eli,
In a Society where most Folk feel there's a pill for everything,over-prescription is inevitable...Years ago I had a Building Business with my eldest son,we had the maintenence contract on a Mental Facility...I would guess one in three of the inmates were in a permanent state of sedation and these were the harmless ones...Why not Google this,I am sure there are lots of opinions and Studies there.
 

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Pretty sure the mother of the woman I was dating faked an afib on the 35th bday of her and her twin brother. Two days in the hospital and ended up leaving with a clean bill of health. Is that sick or what.
AFib is no joke. I had a single episode about 10 years ago and I thought I was having a heart attack...my heart was literally going crazy.

Got to the hospital and they were all non-chalanat and were like "Oh yeah, you are just having an AFib episode, you'll be fine."

Meanwhile they have me hooked up to machine monitoring my vitals and I am watching my heart rate bounce around between 60 and 150 randomly and trying not to freak out because I could feel my heart going all over the place and beating erratically.

Never had another episode but have to take medicine for it or have a procedure called an ablation to fix it but they don't always fix it the first time and sometimes you need to have it done two or three times to fix it and the only way you'll know is by going into another AFib episode.

Fvck that...I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Scariest sh!t I ever experienced.

Only positive is now I have to see a cardiologist yearly and have had multiple EKG's, echoes and stress echoes done over the years and my heart is in perfect health. Essentially I will likely know if I have a problem well before most people would that don't have these things done and just randomly have a CV event one day.
 

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Narcissistic traits are difficult to treat.
From the POV of someone who doesn't engage in gossip or talk back to others, witnessing another person doing so in front of you, especially when it involves someone close to you, can be quite surprising.

Furthermore, the individual being gossiped about often returns to compliment the person who has been gossiping about them behind their back, praising them for how they make them feel.
It's quite astonishing. Narcissistic traits are difficult to treat. But they are attractive.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Preach to them we have are issues but popping pills should be your last resort !!
 
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Disagree.

It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.

Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.

There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
Men always bully each other.

If you take it personal, you aren't doing it right.

It's not personal, bro.
 
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AFib is no joke. I had a single episode about 10 years ago and I thought I was having a heart attack...my heart was literally going crazy.

Got to the hospital and they were all non-chalanat and were like "Oh yeah, you are just having an AFib episode, you'll be fine."

Meanwhile they have me hooked up to machine monitoring my vitals and I am watching my heart rate bounce around between 60 and 150 randomly and trying not to freak out because I could feel my heart going all over the place and beating erratically.

Never had another episode but have to take medicine for it or have a procedure called an ablation to fix it but they don't always fix it the first time and sometimes you need to have it done two or three times to fix it and the only way you'll know is by going into another AFib episode.

Fvck that...I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Scariest sh!t I ever experienced.

Only positive is now I have to see a cardiologist yearly and have had multiple EKG's, echoes and stress echoes done over the years and my heart is in perfect health. Essentially I will likely know if I have a problem well before most people would that don't have these things done and just randomly have a CV event one day.
They have you scared now, so you go back again and again.

They tried the same thing on me with an irregular heartbeat.

I went in specifically for this to be checked. They tell me they don't know what causes it, and a lot of people have it. I need to see a cardiologist.

I go to see the specialist, and he makes me feel stupid for being there, tells me my heart looks great.

Meanwhile, my irregular heartbeat stops on it's own (Pretty sure it was stress induced).

I think most health problems can be cured with keto and intermittent fasting.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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