"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The myth of mental illness!!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scaramouche
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Yes please do write a few thoughts down for us....A prominent Phsychiatrist from the past....R.D.Laing,is also worth reading...His thoughts on Schitzophrenia are particularly interesting.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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It's yet another way how men bully/alienate one another. Mental illness is a real thing.
Posts like this makes a man craawl even more into his shell and maybe even stop him from getting the help he needs.
There's a fine thin line between beinh a so-called whiner and being actually mentally sick.
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The irony is that those stigmatizing mental health are likely people that have issues themselves. Nobody of sound substance would discourage the betterment of someone else, it is irrational.
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The lateste one? You ended things recently?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scaramouche
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Yes you are right,mental illness is very real....Perhaps Eli is suggesting that subliminally for some,it is an involuntary defence?
Pills are overrated don't you think?
Scaramouche
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In a Society where most Folk feel there's a pill for everything,over-prescription is inevitable...Years ago I had a Building Business with my eldest son,we had the maintenence contract on a Mental Facility...I would guess one in three of the inmates were in a permanent state of sedation and these were the harmless ones...Why not Google this,I am sure there are lots of opinions and Studies there.
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AFib is no joke. I had a single episode about 10 years ago and I thought I was having a heart attack...my heart was literally going crazy.
Got to the hospital and they were all non-chalanat and were like "Oh yeah, you are just having an AFib episode, you'll be fine."
Meanwhile they have me hooked up to machine monitoring my vitals and I am watching my heart rate bounce around between 60 and 150 randomly and trying not to freak out because I could feel my heart going all over the place and beating erratically.
Never had another episode but have to take medicine for it or have a procedure called an ablation to fix it but they don't always fix it the first time and sometimes you need to have it done two or three times to fix it and the only way you'll know is by going into another AFib episode.
Fvck that...I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Scariest sh!t I ever experienced.
Only positive is now I have to see a cardiologist yearly and have had multiple EKG's, echoes and stress echoes done over the years and my heart is in perfect health. Essentially I will likely know if I have a problem well before most people would that don't have these things done and just randomly have a CV event one day.
jhonny9546
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From the POV of someone who doesn't engage in gossip or talk back to others, witnessing another person doing so in front of you, especially when it involves someone close to you, can be quite surprising.
Furthermore, the individual being gossiped about often returns to compliment the person who has been gossiping about them behind their back, praising them for how they make them feel.
It's quite astonishing. Narcissistic traits are difficult to treat. But they are attractive.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
jhonny9546
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So they're attractive for this reason.
Because sometimes you see the pros, and you don't see the cons.
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Men always bully each other.
If you take it personal, you aren't doing it right.
It's not personal, bro.
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They have you scared now, so you go back again and again.
They tried the same thing on me with an irregular heartbeat.
I went in specifically for this to be checked. They tell me they don't know what causes it, and a lot of people have it. I need to see a cardiologist.
I go to see the specialist, and he makes me feel stupid for being there, tells me my heart looks great.
Meanwhile, my irregular heartbeat stops on it's own (Pretty sure it was stress induced).
I think most health problems can be cured with keto and intermittent fasting.
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Where's the fun in that?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.