Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
.can you and others please elaborate?DonJoseCantosie said:> : - ). I love lunch time pickups! If u want to keep it simple...go up to her, invite urself to sit down. She can accept or reject(most women won't reject, 99% will accept). For conversation, prolly something light hearted about the food/what she's doing around here, etc...and then deeper stuff
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Absolutely. Aright, first you go up to her while she's sitting down. U ask her or the group, "Room for one more?" or "Mind if i sit here?" or "I'm sitting down with you...are you down with that?" with a smile of course. They will 9/10 accept. When u sit down, u introduce urself and get their names. From here, go into light topics such as what foods they like, what they like to do in the meantime, something light. But make sure u look at her in the eyes with a smile so she knows that u like her(make sure she knows otherwise she'll most likely just think ur just being friendly). After this, if she's receptive to the light stuff....go into deeper stuff, find out about her. Ask her open ended questions about herself, and thus with some of the things she says let her talk..and then contribute some portion to where u can relate to it. For example: If she says she likes Aerobics, even if u haven't done aerobics...u can go into things similar or ask if its similar to how it looks on TV. Then after ur done eating, get her contact information. Trust me, most won't reject a person eating with them. The hard part is letting them know u indeed do like them. Hope that helpsonthepath said:
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