"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Keys to attraction Part One.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
actually there has been research done that shows that people that move faster are perceived as more aggressive, more engaged, somewhat more alpha and valuable, i guess.
Its all weird, i know. On one hand, you need to be chill and relaxed to be perceived as alpha, on the other hand, I guess that when you are in action, you better really be IN ACTION.
in a way it's understandable. The best hunters (among animals and humans) are the ones that conserve energy and don't needlessly waste it, yet are lightning fast in springing to action when they see an opportunity.
Originally posted by SuPaF1y
haha actually i was just f*cking with you alli made all this stuff up!
YOU JUST GOT PUNK'D!!!!!!!!!
haha sure you did, nice try though.
Don't try to act fly on the net because I'm acting like the spider.
I_Only_Live_Once
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ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Context friends... CONTEXT!!!
When working, moving faster is a sign of alphaness since it shows an invigorated demure. Males who can perform menial tasks with accuracy prove they have moved beyond the task, it is considered NATURAL to them, it is a second hand movement, it is subconciously ingrained into their minds.
When in a relaxed setting, moving fast implies different personality traits. Have you ever talked to somebody in private, only to have them scurry off and sit alone. When was the last time you were excited while sitting down, and your voice started to speed up? Moving fast, excitedly, or seeming JUMPY, is a false indicator of fear.
Speed walking is great when you are ANGRY with somebody, it is HORRIBLE when you are anxious, or excited.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Hm, over doing it... how so? Isn't this site about finding all the little intricacies of seduction?
If it was not, than the DJ bible covers everything you need to know about the basics 50 fold.
I_Only_Live_Once
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organizedconfusion
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urkel from family matters, screech from saved by the bell, mcfly from back to the future, etc.... how do they move ? fast like a cheetah
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.