Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
This is the fundimental wrong of most self-help. It is possible to be rid of your problems because every moment holds the key. The mind creates almost all problems. If you live in the moment, using the Power of Now, your mind is no longer WHO YOU ARE. If you live in the now, thus, you don't have any more "problems." I speak from experience man, I am not kidding. This actually works. Living in the moment is not "repressing" problems because when you live in the moment you see that your problems don't really exsist. If they are not real you are not repressing them. I know this sounds weird but I learned all of it from The Power of Now.just you can't punch your issues to the side (if you have them).. in that way you just repress them in yourself
I know that feeling. It has happened to me. BUT, that feeling is what being in the NOW IS. That energy, that happiness, that confidence. That is the NOW. I did not know it until I read The Power of Now, but everytime I immerse myself in the moment, and silence my mind I FEEL LIKE THAT ALL THE TIME. The problem is not the posts, but that the readers can't stay in the NOW, they live blissfully until their mind comes in and brings them down.with some new isnpiring post, I know that feeling "Oh yes, thats the KEY, I've found it!", and then some unexpected event, and your so called "confidence" dissapears from where it've appeared
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I preach this all over the board now a days because it has helped me more than ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DONE. And I agree with you that living in the now is very hard, but IT IS WORTH EVERy INCH OF THE EFFORT. I am honest to god, here. I am going to stick through it. I am going to stick through it to the end. I have found the now. The only problem that I see people having is A) doubting that the NOW is truely helpful and B) that they never expierence it. If you don't ever feel the now then you doubt the truth of it. And, in response to the how much effort: I have been reading the power of now for about 3-4 months now, and I am able to get into the now with 80% efficancy. But the problem, as I said, is STAYING IN THE NOW. I started reading it but never finished until I realized that all the good things that happend to me (confidence and humor and happiness) came to me as a result of the now. A dangerous thing to do I know, attributing thing to the now, but it is true. And I don't know also if it is possible to become "fully conscious and aware." But then who is to say what "full" means, I don't know if there is a limit or not. But the true master is the not the one "fully aware" the the one who is always aware. For me, STAYING is the hard part.I agree with you on that. Just to "Live IN NOW" IN REAL is VERY hard thing to do. That requires A LOT of trainng. Thats in other words - become fully conscious and aware (question if thats even possible at all).
I have gone back and started to read some of D9s stuff, and damn it is hard. I am going to go through it slowly. But I suggest that first you read "the power of now", I can't say much about those other authors because I have not read any of them.Why read this material from the incomprehensible Destini when you can get the same ideas in more clarity from Eckhart Tolle
I was reserving my openness for when you answered my question the right way. Of course I seemed closed and shallow. That's because I was purposely trying to be that way until I could trust that you were capable of displaying reason. Reason would be answering a simple question correctly. You proved that you have none by evading like a politician.One more thing: Is the main "thing" - your ANSWERED question? If you wouldn't be so "closed" and shallow
Julius,Originally posted by Julius_Caesar
I preach this all over the board now a days because it has helped me more than ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DONE. And I agree with you that living in the now is very hard, but IT IS WORTH EVERy INCH OF THE EFFORT. I am honest to god, here. I am going to stick through it. I am going to stick through it to the end. I have found the now. The only problem that I see people having is A) doubting that the NOW is truely helpful and B) that they never expierence it. If you don't ever feel the now then you doubt the truth of it. And, in response to the how much effort: I have been reading the power of now for about 3-4 months now, and I am able to get into the now with 80% efficancy. But the problem, as I said, is STAYING IN THE NOW. I started reading it but never finished until I realized that all the good things that happend to me (confidence and humor and happiness) came to me as a result of the now. A dangerous thing to do I know, attributing thing to the now, but it is true. And I don't know also if it is possible to become "fully conscious and aware." But then who is to say what "full" means, I don't know if there is a limit or not. But the true master is the not the one "fully aware" the the one who is always aware. For me, STAYING is the hard part.
I, again, think that it is worth it. Stick through it. I am lucky that I am young.
I have gone back and started to read some of D9s stuff, and damn it is hard. I am going to go through it slowly. But I suggest that first you read "the power of now", I can't say much about those other authors because I have not read any of them.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Shes says after bumping a 2 year old postDestini9 said:Oh my...Still going at it.?
I fall somewhere down the middle of this "debate". I thought the stuff on 101 about the ego was great. I believe however that the above is actually the reason why you *can* - if not actually plant things - then activate the triggers in the human mind that mean exactly the same thing.Destini9 said:No you can NOT subliminally implant a damn thing in ANYBODY for any reason. The reason you can NOT do this is the simple but brilliant construction of the brain and how it processes data, and that humans operate a very precise way...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.