You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This is the fundimental wrong of most self-help. It is possible to be rid of your problems because every moment holds the key. The mind creates almost all problems. If you live in the moment, using the Power of Now, your mind is no longer WHO YOU ARE. If you live in the now, thus, you don't have any more "problems." I speak from experience man, I am not kidding. This actually works. Living in the moment is not "repressing" problems because when you live in the moment you see that your problems don't really exsist. If they are not real you are not repressing them. I know this sounds weird but I learned all of it from The Power of Now.just you can't punch your issues to the side (if you have them).. in that way you just repress them in yourself
I know that feeling. It has happened to me. BUT, that feeling is what being in the NOW IS. That energy, that happiness, that confidence. That is the NOW. I did not know it until I read The Power of Now, but everytime I immerse myself in the moment, and silence my mind I FEEL LIKE THAT ALL THE TIME. The problem is not the posts, but that the readers can't stay in the NOW, they live blissfully until their mind comes in and brings them down.with some new isnpiring post, I know that feeling "Oh yes, thats the KEY, I've found it!", and then some unexpected event, and your so called "confidence" dissapears from where it've appeared
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I preach this all over the board now a days because it has helped me more than ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DONE. And I agree with you that living in the now is very hard, but IT IS WORTH EVERy INCH OF THE EFFORT. I am honest to god, here. I am going to stick through it. I am going to stick through it to the end. I have found the now. The only problem that I see people having is A) doubting that the NOW is truely helpful and B) that they never expierence it. If you don't ever feel the now then you doubt the truth of it. And, in response to the how much effort: I have been reading the power of now for about 3-4 months now, and I am able to get into the now with 80% efficancy. But the problem, as I said, is STAYING IN THE NOW. I started reading it but never finished until I realized that all the good things that happend to me (confidence and humor and happiness) came to me as a result of the now. A dangerous thing to do I know, attributing thing to the now, but it is true. And I don't know also if it is possible to become "fully conscious and aware." But then who is to say what "full" means, I don't know if there is a limit or not. But the true master is the not the one "fully aware" the the one who is always aware. For me, STAYING is the hard part.I agree with you on that. Just to "Live IN NOW" IN REAL is VERY hard thing to do. That requires A LOT of trainng. Thats in other words - become fully conscious and aware (question if thats even possible at all).
I have gone back and started to read some of D9s stuff, and damn it is hard. I am going to go through it slowly. But I suggest that first you read "the power of now", I can't say much about those other authors because I have not read any of them.Why read this material from the incomprehensible Destini when you can get the same ideas in more clarity from Eckhart Tolle
I was reserving my openness for when you answered my question the right way. Of course I seemed closed and shallow. That's because I was purposely trying to be that way until I could trust that you were capable of displaying reason. Reason would be answering a simple question correctly. You proved that you have none by evading like a politician.One more thing: Is the main "thing" - your ANSWERED question? If you wouldn't be so "closed" and shallow
Julius,Originally posted by Julius_Caesar
I preach this all over the board now a days because it has helped me more than ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DONE. And I agree with you that living in the now is very hard, but IT IS WORTH EVERy INCH OF THE EFFORT. I am honest to god, here. I am going to stick through it. I am going to stick through it to the end. I have found the now. The only problem that I see people having is A) doubting that the NOW is truely helpful and B) that they never expierence it. If you don't ever feel the now then you doubt the truth of it. And, in response to the how much effort: I have been reading the power of now for about 3-4 months now, and I am able to get into the now with 80% efficancy. But the problem, as I said, is STAYING IN THE NOW. I started reading it but never finished until I realized that all the good things that happend to me (confidence and humor and happiness) came to me as a result of the now. A dangerous thing to do I know, attributing thing to the now, but it is true. And I don't know also if it is possible to become "fully conscious and aware." But then who is to say what "full" means, I don't know if there is a limit or not. But the true master is the not the one "fully aware" the the one who is always aware. For me, STAYING is the hard part.
I, again, think that it is worth it. Stick through it. I am lucky that I am young.
I have gone back and started to read some of D9s stuff, and damn it is hard. I am going to go through it slowly. But I suggest that first you read "the power of now", I can't say much about those other authors because I have not read any of them.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Shes says after bumping a 2 year old postDestini9 said:Oh my...Still going at it.?
I fall somewhere down the middle of this "debate". I thought the stuff on 101 about the ego was great. I believe however that the above is actually the reason why you *can* - if not actually plant things - then activate the triggers in the human mind that mean exactly the same thing.Destini9 said:No you can NOT subliminally implant a damn thing in ANYBODY for any reason. The reason you can NOT do this is the simple but brilliant construction of the brain and how it processes data, and that humans operate a very precise way...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.