You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LET GO. DIG IN.Originally posted by DarkDream:
You possess the most powerful tool to power and success: the ability to choose - the will of the spirit.
You have the choice. Choose life, choose happiness, choose power.
Yes... what are all the chumps going to do about it?Originally posted by WildThang:
But now - what are you going to do about it?![]()
Find me some hunting grounds.Originally posted by WildThang:
Okay - you got it right on the nose. The 'I'm taking you home' scenario was perfect - definitely the difference between a DJ and an AFC.
Definitely Bible material too.
But now - what are you going to do about it?![]()
It was really funny Maximus. I was around half way through writing my post when I noticed your post. I was pleasantly surprised to see that the type of things you were talking about (letting go especially) were directly relating to what I was producing.Originally posted by Maximus:
LET GO. DIG IN.
A philosophy I have come to live by recently, with the help of this board and my own life experiences. Your post articulated to the nth degree what I have been thinking for a while now.
A true writer has the ability to articulate through analogy and story what someone else is thinking. It's the "Holy Crap, that's me!" reaction as you read something.
I would like to know your thoughts on my not-so-little article a while back.
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/010375.html
Nothing revelational to a lot of people here. I just wanted to make my first post a complilation of thoughts and experiences so far in life. I also wanted to help RoadWarrior with his "6 Women" predicament. Don't we all wish for that! LOL
I think it would dovetail nicely with your article. Yours was definitley more concrete to comprehend I believe. Whenever I say to myself "Let go and dig in", your article is what I will be thinking of.
Excellent post.
Maximus
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I've read a lot of Richard Dawkins books, am a great fan of Desmond Morris, and Edward O. Wilson (his book "On Human Virtue" I found fascinating). I have big science background and have found evolutionary psychology invaluable in understanding human beings.Originally posted by PortugueseMeatball:
DarkDream,
First of all, I want to thank you. For the last week or so I've been really bummed, I don't know why. You REALLY uplifted my spirit. And I will SURELY use this post if I ever face a loss of vital energy!
This was genuinely a herculean task, writing this post!!! Great job! I've only read about 25% of it and I totally agree with you.
I've acquired this way of thinking about what each sex seeks on the other after reading a chapter from the book "The Selfish Gene" by R. Dawkins (forgot the first name...). He discusses that each sex uses criteria to select a sexual partner based on external appearances. The final product is selecting a partner that maximizes the chances of survival of the offspring. A strong, healthy individual denounces that he has a strong immune system, and it is most likely to pass it on to the children, whereas a weak and ill individual may pass that illness to the offspring. This results in lost time -- the other partner could've used that time to help giving birth to the offspring from a healtier individual! This is a very biological-oriented view, but you may try to find a relation within the human species -- which you argumented reasonably, at least I haven't found any objections so far to your reasoning!
I'm to blame for not having post on this subject already! I've tried to write a small post about this, which became an essay, and it got so big, which sections, and subsections and... oh damn, I simply gave up because I felt it would became so heavy that nobody would read it. Fortunately, you proved me wrong by showing that it can be elaborated in an interesting fashion. Great job!
TCOY, DarkDream
[This message has been edited by PortugueseMeatball (edited 01-14-2002).]
Originally posted by Pedro F. Marcos:
Temos que as castigar!!
Originally posted by DarkDream:
I've read a lot of Richard Dawkins books, am a great fan of Desmond Morris, and Edward O. Wilson (his book "On Human Virtue" I found fascinating). I have big science background and have found evolutionary psychology invaluable in understanding human beings.
Meatball, go ahead and read the rest of my post: the heart and real crux of it comes later.
--DD
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.