Technical1
Senior Don Juan
brilliant post.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It sounds good, and is funny, but it assumes much. The Powerful male and the AFC will both get pimped by either a drug dealer, a criminal or especially a drugged out musician. And the rich guy will pimp out all three. In the movie "Scarface" it wasnt until the rich, drugged out criminal drug dealer GOT super-rich and powerful that he was able to score Elvira. He literally had to kill his competition (Frank Lopez) Then he simply walked into her bedroom, and slipped the covers off her naked body, and told her, "Get up, you're coming with me, Frank is finished" and she sleepily agreed.gekkoca said:Dark Dream...
Yoda of advice you are.
Excellent Post...
I really appreciate your effort into this forum.This is it in a nut shell.
So how come hunter does not kino..?
Ahhhh to get prey curious... entice prey to come to hunter and lessen hunters effort.Not have hunter chase and waste unneccesary energy.Efficient.Yes!
Because you're too scared of getting caught. Being a criminal takes balls. Getting on stage and performing takes balls. Going to the gym, working hard, paying your taxes, not so much. Lots of women, especially the young hot ones, are unable to prioritize anything higher than great big hairy man-sized BALLS.epitome said:then why don't we all go start dealing drugs, JackPrescott
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The only problem I have with the original post is, as usual with pickup material, looks and money are undervalued or discredited. This is because the gurus who are trying to sell their method want to be able to say looks and money aren't important. Because that's their clientele - guys without looks or money. Chances are if they had either, they wouldn't be needing a pickup guru.Jack Prescott said:In the movie "Scarface" it wasnt until the rich, drugged out criminal drug dealer GOT super-rich and powerful that he was able to score Elvira.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.