"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The "Grown Folks" Forum is Back!

Survivor

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Ok men, I campaigned hard for this forum so let's not screw this up. Now I'm not gonna sticky any "ground rules" or "Mature Man's DJ Bible" or any crap like that. As older men and as veteran posters we should be above and beyond that. All I ask is that you support the forum, stay on topic, and behave like the "mature man" that you claim to be.

Enjoy!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MacAvoy

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I think this is great to have an older DJ's forum. I think we have a totally different set of priorities / goals than the teenage DJ's in the main forum. However I would encourage the posters in here to still help out the younger DJ's as well.
 

JustDoItAlways

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Being an immature Mature man, I plan to hang out here more often if it takes off.

The main board just continues over and over again with the same topics over and over again starting from the "does she like me" posts.

Lets see if this forum can retain some "memory."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Chrispy

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It's good to have this forum.
So I'll start by calling for all 25+ to talk about where to meet girls, when you've finished school and live the worker's life?
I for one have found so far that when you break the regular groove and go to a social function, that's when the opportunities begin! Thoughts?
 

bp1974

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:) :) :) :) :)
 

NMMWCR

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Nice replacement for the Unusual Techniques - SS Jedi Mind Control board. :D
 
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Ahhh a breath of fresh air...Thank you very much. If I see one more kid doing the office love thing or how do I get this girl back I was ready to heave!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Genghis Juan

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I must admit that I really like the way this board is going so far. The discussions are definitely more sophisticated and relevant to the post-college experience of life. Particularly to the 20-somethings struggling to deal with the new reality of life after college: the fact that it is there for the taken, otherwise you totally miss out.
 

Helter Skelter

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What a great idea.

I can't stand seeing sixteen year olds giving dating advice to guys a lot older then they are.
This whole place was turning into a high school forum.
Now their is a place to escape to.

Good job Survivor.
 

Gangster Of Love

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Great idea. Although, did they really have to eliminate the Unusual Techiniques forum? and how long before the younger AFC's invade this forum too, and start giving us advice. :)
 

new_juan

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Great work.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Austin Allegro

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I have a problm pls help me guyz. HB9 in my classs (she has b/f) but her frnd told me she thinks I'm cute and after math she smiled at me and siad I'm a nice guy but more like her brother but what about this is it a good sign she said come to her place she's having a bbq i'm like ok she wants me to do the cooking oh and also bring the beer and I have to cleen the place b4 i go so her b/f and she can make out that's cool but I needd to know if this girl likes me and how to get her to dump hr b/f cuz I'm in love with her real bad.

:D

Just kidding. Great new forum!
 

Bungo Pony

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Hey all, figured I'd pop in here.

I think we have a totally different set of priorities / goals than the teenage DJ's in the main forum.
Isn't that what the high school forum was for? I really can't believe how much this place has mutated since I've joined (or even since I last posted!).
 

Blue-eyed Devil

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This seems like it has potential. Can't promise I'll be a regular again, but I can always learn something while sandbagging.
 

Hot Ice

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As the main forum changed from The Don Juan Forum to The Average Frustrated Chump Forum, this has been a really refreshing forum.
Thanks.

If this goes afc, I think we should create a newbie forum and advanced forum... but that's not a concern yet.
 
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