Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Power over what, or whom?Plinco said:Can anyone relate to this? Is this normal? Since I was very young I had aspirations of understanding ecology, but as I have gotten older, I have had the desire for gaining power.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If the world is a like a giant scheming court and we are trapped inside it, there is no use in trying to opt out of the game. That will render you powerless, and powerlessness will make you miserable. Instead of struggling against the inevitable, instead of arguing and whining and feeling guilty, it is far better to excel at power. In fact, the better you are at dealing with power, the better friend, lover, husband, wife, and person you become... If the game of power is inescapable, better to be an artist than a denier or a bungler.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Plinco said:Here is an example of what I was talking about:
A young man that would rate as a 5 on the 1-10 attractiveness scale should be able to get a hb5 with no problem, but his ego is telling him to get a hb9.
Maybe the ego is not such a bad thing.
you can either lower your standards for other women, or raise the standards in yourself and demand more from you sot hat you can get that womanTyTe`EyEz said:What if the man is unable to attain the HB9 that his loin so desires -- should he go through life unhappy and discontented because of the hand he was dealt?
Sometimes it is better to focus on what you have, rather than what you don't.
backbreaker said:you can either lower your standards for other women, or raise the standards in yourself and demand more from you sot hat you can get that woman
read pook's post on this, it's pure gold.
worst post ever......TyTe`EyEz said:What if the man is unable to attain the HB9 that his loin so desires -- should he go through life unhappy and discontented because of the hand he was dealt?
Sometimes it is better to focus on what you have, rather than what you don't.
Responses in bold.Credos said:worst post ever......
Only real fools believe something is impossible...
Or realists.
It's ALWAYSE good to focus on a goal. True, achieving the goal will probably never give you satisfaction, but striving to achieve your ambitions and looking back on the things that you have achieved will give you satisfaction.
As I said in my last post: we should always try to better ourselves.
We're all created equal, some of us just work harder to achieve their goals.
I don't know what fairytale you're living in, buddy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.