You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Power over what, or whom?Plinco said:Can anyone relate to this? Is this normal? Since I was very young I had aspirations of understanding ecology, but as I have gotten older, I have had the desire for gaining power.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If the world is a like a giant scheming court and we are trapped inside it, there is no use in trying to opt out of the game. That will render you powerless, and powerlessness will make you miserable. Instead of struggling against the inevitable, instead of arguing and whining and feeling guilty, it is far better to excel at power. In fact, the better you are at dealing with power, the better friend, lover, husband, wife, and person you become... If the game of power is inescapable, better to be an artist than a denier or a bungler.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Plinco said:Here is an example of what I was talking about:
A young man that would rate as a 5 on the 1-10 attractiveness scale should be able to get a hb5 with no problem, but his ego is telling him to get a hb9.
Maybe the ego is not such a bad thing.
you can either lower your standards for other women, or raise the standards in yourself and demand more from you sot hat you can get that womanTyTe`EyEz said:What if the man is unable to attain the HB9 that his loin so desires -- should he go through life unhappy and discontented because of the hand he was dealt?
Sometimes it is better to focus on what you have, rather than what you don't.
backbreaker said:you can either lower your standards for other women, or raise the standards in yourself and demand more from you sot hat you can get that woman
read pook's post on this, it's pure gold.
worst post ever......TyTe`EyEz said:What if the man is unable to attain the HB9 that his loin so desires -- should he go through life unhappy and discontented because of the hand he was dealt?
Sometimes it is better to focus on what you have, rather than what you don't.
Responses in bold.Credos said:worst post ever......
Only real fools believe something is impossible...
Or realists.
It's ALWAYSE good to focus on a goal. True, achieving the goal will probably never give you satisfaction, but striving to achieve your ambitions and looking back on the things that you have achieved will give you satisfaction.
As I said in my last post: we should always try to better ourselves.
We're all created equal, some of us just work harder to achieve their goals.
I don't know what fairytale you're living in, buddy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.