Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Fade Away

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clifford

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So, I am seeing this girl, I am really crazy about. About a month and a half ago, I pulled the gangi. It worked like a charm, but now she is getting weird again. I can't put up with this **** anymore so I have decided to do a variation of the gangi - the fade away. I need some tips on this. It's less extreme than the gangi, but deep down it's the same thing. It's all about retracting and being way less responsive, without ever being confrontational. Any of you guys that have done this before I would appreciate some tips.

I intend to check in here and post to tell you guys how it goes, but also as a sanity check.

The Fade Away - Day 1.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by BigDawg
pardon my ignorance, but what is the gangi?
It's that green weed! You smoke it and get all high and sh#t... I know I couldn't possibly live without it :up:

If the rest of y'all would open your eyes to the herb, you wouldn't be on here worrying about all these games and sh#t... because like me, you just wouldn't care!
 

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Originally posted by drZaius09
It's that green weed! You smoke it and get all high and sh#t...
Oh, duh! I don't think I placed the name with the spelling. Sure I've heard of it, but I just wasn't making the connection. Brain cramp, I guess.

I never touched the stuff, but I can assure you, I stopped caring about a lot of things a long time ago.

Jaded indifference--what a concept.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude weed is the best thing ever invented...although i took a break because soccer season has started i lov esmokin and will continue to do so once soccer is onver and done with :)
 
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