De La Soul
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Yep, I don't have much time to write a real reply, but that variation could definitely work, V. Nice.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Easiest Pattern Ever (15 words)
- Thread starter Viroid
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Deagleclaw
Master Don Juan
Ummm...
There's a flaw... you're asking, not telling.
You're asking "What would I have to do?" Bad... it shows you're not worth going out with without guaranteed payment, and it gives them time to think of a response as it's clear you're waiting for one.
Try changing it to something like...
"What wouldn't I do that wouldn't make YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME"
Imply that they already want to date you, head fake them with a double negative, then blindside them with a followup while they're trying to figure the first statement out.
Cheers,
Deagleclaw out
There's a flaw... you're asking, not telling.
You're asking "What would I have to do?" Bad... it shows you're not worth going out with without guaranteed payment, and it gives them time to think of a response as it's clear you're waiting for one.
Try changing it to something like...
"What wouldn't I do that wouldn't make YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME"
Imply that they already want to date you, head fake them with a double negative, then blindside them with a followup while they're trying to figure the first statement out.
Cheers,
Deagleclaw out
Originally posted by Deagleclaw
Ummm...
There's a flaw... you're asking, not telling.
But "want to go out with me" is TELLING the subconscious if you use the right tonality.
You're asking "What would I have to do?" Bad... it shows you're not worth going out with without guaranteed payment, and it gives them time to think of a response as it's clear you're waiting for one.
At the same time, its a great screening technique. If she likes you, shes not going to say something shallow. And if she does say something shallow you wouldnt want to go out with her anyway. Again, its worked great for me.
Try changing it to something like...
"What wouldn't I do that wouldn't make YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME"
Imply that they already want to date you, head fake them with a double negative, then blindside them with a followup while they're trying to figure the first statement out.
Cheers,
Deagleclaw out
I LIKE THIS! NICE! Quite the tongue twister, though. Have you tried it?
g f l a s h 4 0 0 1
Don Juan
When she responds with "What..?" How should you respond? Clarify or just say "Never mind?""What wouldn't I do that wouldn't make YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thecraftylefty
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Guy, guys, guys, take it easy. This is the seduction part of the board, and seduction is a step up from the regular "DJ" principles. When you come here you're supposed to already having a good understanding and firm background with DJing, then you can move on to the more advanced levels, such as seduction, if you choose. Not flaming, just explaining.
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
Repeat it.Originally posted by g f l a s h 4 0 0 1
When she responds with "What..?" How should you respond? Clarify or just say "Never mind?"
Originally posted by photo 1
and how about if she says in response:
"oh, im sorry, im not really interested"
"I never asked you out."
"oh, sorry, but i have a boyfriend"
"Who said anything about a romantic relationship? I dont even know you."
it seems as if your asking her out, it automatically makes her realise your interested and the control is with her,
Thats your frame/reality. Not mine. And not the one you should be in. I might think shes sexy, but that dosent mean im interested in her or she is in control.
then if she doesnt like you or doesnt want to go out with you, she will come up with the ****ty excuses like above.
Have you tried it and gotten those responses? In my experiences with it, if they dont like me, they say something shallow. And sometimes they say something shallow when they are interested. Ive had girls come back and sincerely apologize.
C'mon guys, lets stop analyzing this so much. Ive gotten good results with it. So, get out there and DO IT! THEN you can analyze it all you want.
SexPDX
Master Don Juan
I am glad to see this kind of stuff being discussed. I must say that I am not really behind Viroid on this one and I will explain why.
Deagleclaw wrote:
There's a flaw... you're asking, not telling.
To which Viroid responded:
ut "want to go out with me" is TELLING the subconscious if you use the right tonality.
The underlying idea at work with embedded commands is that the subconscious interprets all possible meanings of what is said. However, that which is communicated subconsciously doesn't necessarily take precedence over what is communicated consciously. The fact is that what you are saying consciously comes across as supplication. Sorry, but it does. I can think of very few deliveries that would make it not come across that way. Furthermore, I hardly consider this a "pattern" because it is just one embedded command in isolation, not encompased by any themes or language structures.
I still haven't gotten to the MAIN problem this causes. Where is the interaction being taken now? Where are you GOING with this? ANSWER: YOU are not going ANYWHERE because this gives HER the opportunity to screen YOU. If you are doing that, then any subconcious messages you slide in the back door are rendered completely ineffective because at a conscious level you are handing control of the relationship/interaction back to her. Handing the ball of decision/screening back to her is never a good idea, not even in jest.
Deagleclaw's suggestion of making it less weak by making it a statement instead of a question and "head faking" her with a double-negative making it difficult for her to respond is a BIG improvement.
Viroid, you say you have had success with this and I won't knock that. However, I am going to have to ask what kind of success we are talking about. Did you LAY these chicks with this tactic? If so, how many?
-PDX
Deagleclaw wrote:
There's a flaw... you're asking, not telling.
To which Viroid responded:
ut "want to go out with me" is TELLING the subconscious if you use the right tonality.
The underlying idea at work with embedded commands is that the subconscious interprets all possible meanings of what is said. However, that which is communicated subconsciously doesn't necessarily take precedence over what is communicated consciously. The fact is that what you are saying consciously comes across as supplication. Sorry, but it does. I can think of very few deliveries that would make it not come across that way. Furthermore, I hardly consider this a "pattern" because it is just one embedded command in isolation, not encompased by any themes or language structures.
I still haven't gotten to the MAIN problem this causes. Where is the interaction being taken now? Where are you GOING with this? ANSWER: YOU are not going ANYWHERE because this gives HER the opportunity to screen YOU. If you are doing that, then any subconcious messages you slide in the back door are rendered completely ineffective because at a conscious level you are handing control of the relationship/interaction back to her. Handing the ball of decision/screening back to her is never a good idea, not even in jest.
Deagleclaw's suggestion of making it less weak by making it a statement instead of a question and "head faking" her with a double-negative making it difficult for her to respond is a BIG improvement.
Viroid, you say you have had success with this and I won't knock that. However, I am going to have to ask what kind of success we are talking about. Did you LAY these chicks with this tactic? If so, how many?
-PDX
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thecraftylefty
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It is a flaw because it's not an actual pattern. It's basically just a one-liner. It has an embedded command, but that's it. Nothing against Viroid of course. To me it seems that it could be better utilized as a ****y/"playful" remark.
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."
thecraftylefty
Dopey the Barbarian
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I just used "What would I have to do to let me give you a Dirty Sanchez? and she said that stinks, so....
fragmentor
Senior Don Juan
*bump*
this is getting interesting!
sure it's not necessarily a pattern but it sounds good for breaking the interest barrier (if you can tell that she's definitely into you). then you could use the one step back, two forward technique to create anticipation and possibly remove any thought in her mind of you being desperate.
However i would like to hear if anyone has laid anyone using this interesting one-liner?
this is getting interesting!
sure it's not necessarily a pattern but it sounds good for breaking the interest barrier (if you can tell that she's definitely into you). then you could use the one step back, two forward technique to create anticipation and possibly remove any thought in her mind of you being desperate.
However i would like to hear if anyone has laid anyone using this interesting one-liner?
ItalianMafioso
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Actually, one could also argue that there's also some psychological mind-leading in the statement as well. This pattern also uses the power of suggestion. It says "You want to go out with me." As well as commanding the person to "Want to go out with me." This could be an extremely powerful pattern. It's almost a hypnotic suggestion at the end.Originally posted by Viroid
Tonality: "WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME" should be said as a statement, not a question. In other words, your tone of voice SHOULD NOT rise at the end of the sentence. Its an embedded command.
Until Next Time,
ItalianMafioso
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You also don't sound desperate. The wording in the begining is "what would I have to do" not "what do I have to do." This keeps the question itself completely hypothetical. This is definately a keeper.
Until Next Time,
ItalianMafioso
Until Next Time,
ItalianMafioso
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Squirrel
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Ok, I just found this, so forgive me for if I am bringing this up from the dead. This isnt the usual girl right here. Kinda gothic, but so am I... To a degree. I DJ'ed her about 3 times, and had small chat with her about 3 or 4 more times. I havent introduced myself yet (still figuring how, cuz its kinda ackward to be like 'hey, we've been talking, but I dont even know your name'. But do you think I should try this tactic? Since this is a slighty different girl, is there a slightly different approuch? Thanks.
ApocalypseCow
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"What would I have to do to make you WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME."
Very interesting. This is a popular salesman technique, too: "What would I have to do to make you want to buy this car?"
Very interesting. This is a popular salesman technique, too: "What would I have to do to make you want to buy this car?"