The dating market is just getting worse every year

[MatureDJ]

If any of you know me, you know I rarely complain about women or the state of the world and I don't concern myself with things outside of my control, like politics, social issues, gossip, whatever. But I can no longer ignore it or deny it any more, things are just getting worse every passing year. Its noticeably worse now than it was 3 years ago and 3 years ago it was noticeably worse than it was in 2020.

Hoeflation, entitlement, delusion, narcissism, feminism, and general man-hating from women are all continuing to ramp up and I don't see any signs of it stopping.

It seems to me like before long the US is going be in a similar place to South Korea with the 4B movement, with extremely radicalized political opposition between the two genders and a rapidly declining birthrate.

Do you think pendelum going to swing the other way? Or should we just sit back and enjoy the decline and ****show that is coming?

I still have HopeCope that I can MoneyMax in a poorer white country.

 

[Solomon]

Like always. Adapt or die.

This, I notice the biggest issues modern men face even on sosuave is the lack of social life and hobbies, I even made a post last year how to join a social circle or create one from scratch I think 3rd spaces will make a comeback espeically with the rise of AI robots in the near future which brings me to this.....

I'll give you some quick examples of what I mean by erasure of 3rd places:

• Shopping malls are completely dead
• Entertainment/nightlife is dying (it was already dying before Covid, and post-Covid it's only gotten worse)
• Coffee shops went from social hangouts to office spaces
• Public spaces, parks, plazas, outdoor venues/markets, dense urban areas are being erased or commercialized/corporitized
• Increasing suburban sprawl and car-dependency (which decreases social cohesion in and of itself)
• Erasure of mixed-use urbanist zones in cities (everything now is either single family homes or purely commercial spaces)
• Community groups/events like sports clubs, trivia nights, bowling leagues, hobby shops, etc, are dying
• Rent/homeownership is decreasing, as is car ownership, leading to even more isolation

I don't blame social media on much of this. I've recently begun to view social media as a symptom, not a cause. The reason people are using it so much now is they don't have an alternative.

People made the same arguments towards social media that they used to make towards printing press/newspapers, television, radio, telephones, video games, etc. History does not repeat, it rhymes. While I do abhor social media and recognize it as a net negative for society, I think people are too quick to blame it on everything.

I totally agree with you but I think 3rd spaces will make a comeback some are coming back now, look at the popularity of running clubs that has exploded in the last couple years.

Running clubs have exploded so much now that they have turned into "Sex Clubs" or "Sex Cults" where fit people hook up with other fit people (cause ain't a lot of obese in these running clubs). This type of dynamic is true where you have a large diverse group of men and women who are horny i.e., dance clubs like salsa, animee conventions etc

I think once AI robots explode more in a pubcil capacity people who crave human connection will also explode with 3rd paces again. You're seeing a rise of people too limitng their social media use or boycotting it.I know so many people who don't use facebook (except for maybe facebook dating) or X or other social media apps because they are so toxic

 

[Prepostereax]

The "dating market" per se has always been messed up.
Which is to say, the cream continually gets skimmed off and what remains is the sludge.
OLD merely amplifies this effect, because it enlarges the pool, or cesspit, without improving the quality.

Maybe, OP, just Maybe, you might be growing out of it?

I'd come to realise, around age 30, that the "dating market" no longer interested me.
This is pre-OLD, the dating market back then being bars clubs parties and resorts.

It was more a progression than a revelation.
That is, way before then, I'd already figured out that the sorts of skanks found in biker bars and the most notorious meat markets weren't to my taste.

I had plenty enough opportunities through social circles, parties and travel.
But eventually I became aware that most of those encounters turn out to be wastes of time and effort.

Strangely enough, it was when I stopped looking / wanting, that I was getting, or maybe simply noticing, increased attention.
And I could vet for quality.