The dating market is just getting worse every year

[corrector]

Ha! When even the chad-lights are coming out of the woodwork and complaining then you know it has to be bad.

 

[OngBak]

Ha! When even the chad-lights are coming out of the woodwork and complaining then you know it has to be bad.

Chad approves, its genuinely terrible and the rationalization woman use are on disorder level delusional, they genuinely think they are better then the Chad, even though its far from the truth

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Like always. Adapt or die.

 

[OngBak]

Like always. Adapt or die.

Something very important to emphasize as well: Dont lose yourself in the Process

 

[corrector]

Like always. Adapt or die.

Interesting. How many children do you have?

 

[Travel memoir21]

We need to get people off their phones and social media and interacting with each other. Only then will you see more empathy, understanding, caring, and other things that foster healthy human relationships.

I think @BaronOfHair said something to the effect that our social skills are experiencing atrophy. It's the new cancer that hasn't been identified yet.

Do you own a Smartphone and do you have social media like facebook and instagram with it? Just wondering.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Interesting. How many children do you have?

Two. Nothing interesting about it, it's called that's how life works.

You can cry about it or you can do something about it.

I always am the doer, never the crier.

 

[Gamisch]

In the real world, the average man is not a king. and the average woman is not a queen... people in general are just average..



but yet, average women expect to get a man (a really good, nay... a really excellent man) just for existing. The good news is that the tide is turning... These women are not reproducing... they are sinking... more older men are getting with younger women.

You can definitely be king of your own castle, the castle you're building brick by brick. I get it, hyperbolic qoutes like this ain't for everyone. But you live once, and you either live and die as a peasant or as a king...(IMHO)

So you hetter be( come) and excellent man( a king....) so YOU get to pick instead of scraping the bottom of barrel. Sink or swim hombre.

 

[Gamisch]

No one owes another person a living or good feelings, people are individuals with their own interests. It's up to you to teach people how to treat you, or earn your own living.

Isn't that the reason the west is collapsing? Everyone lives on his little island, untill its their turn ...and when it is, they get no help or hand outs because..."no one owes no one".

Perhaps look for women that are not brainwashed by the mainstream media/culture. Conscious/intelligent ones. I believe they still exist.

Latest one I got doesn't have :
Tattoos
Instagram or Facebook
And yet hot AF, feminine and sweet.

I was stunned by just that.

What I've learned is that once YOU become a certain type of man oozing a certain type of energy, it will attract e certain type of woman...

The exist in huge numbers, but its in us as men to give them reasons to notice us...

 

[Gamisch]

Black Culture is proof!

As a ( Caribbean) black guy I unfortunately have to agree with this statement...

 

[corrector]

Two. Nothing interesting about it, it's called that's how life works.

What are they saying about the dating market?

 

[Travel memoir21]

As a ( Caribbean) black guy I unfortunately have to agree with this statement...

You should be proud of your culture, The original Hebrews and Egyptians were black…the whole world originated from The stories of a Black Man. It’s cause the elites knows you guys are the chosen people, that they decided to corrupt your youth with gangster rap and ghetto culture lol.

 

[Slowhandluke]

How can you not blame social media for creating isolation? 20yrs ago when you walked into a bar/restaurant/social venue/etc people were more likely to start up a conversation with a stranger. Now days they have their noses buried in their phones looking at "social" media. There is far less social interaction taking place than ever before. People are not practicing their social skills anymore and it shows whenever you can get one to react.

And what exactly do you call a 3rd place? Restraurants, bars, cafes, libraries? Those places are dying out because of social media and other forms of electronic entertainment that involves your nose buried in a phone.

Instead of going out to eat, losers will use their electronic device to order ubereats so they don't have to interact with a human, further eroding their social skills.

I remember a time when there weren't smart phones.. when the internet didn't exist. If you made plans, you made plans a few days in advance (or even a week). You had to wait by the phone (land line) for people to call. When events were cancelled, you showed up at the venue because you didn't know about it and wasted your time.

To find things to do, you had to look in the newspaper or hear about it on the radio/flyers. Creating events was tough. You couldn't just have a meetup.. or send a mass email. Organizing and getting people together was as tough. People's schedule changes, someone got sick,etc..

Technology has made being sociable easier. However, like all tools, it can also make people less socialble.

I still remember being one of the first few people with a cell phone and calling my girlfriend at the time to come down from her dorm. Without it, who knows? Maybe she wasn't next to her landline phone? Perhaps she's in the bathroom, etc.. It saved time and going out was so much easier.

People not being social is not a technology issue, it's a people issue. In the past, we could of blamed TV for making people less social...

 

[BaronOfHair]

I think @BaronOfHair said something to the effect that our social skills are experiencing atrophy. It's the new cancer that hasn't been identified yet.

Yeah, this is similar to obesity, crime, and most of society's most serious troubles... There's not much the government or policy reform can do to cure such things. They're matters of individual choice

@FlexpertHamilton "Do you think pendelum going to swing the other way?"

I suspect our current fervor for "safety" will wane, and that dating and mating will see something of a resurgence. To the point @The Duke and others raise though: The cat is out of the bag, in regards to technology making it possible to pretty much never leave our homes

As such, I suspect that, on a national level, we'll never again be having as much sex as we were in the late 1960s/early 1970s. Those rates began dropping by the late 70s, when broadcast TV began airing 24/,7, making it possible to go straight home from work, then spend most of one's off hours retreating into fantasy worlds. Since then, video games, cable TV, and the internet has just given us more venues for escapism

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

How can you not blame social media for creating isolation? 20yrs ago when you walked into a bar/restaurant/social venue/etc people were more likely to start up a conversation with a stranger. Now days they have their noses buried in their phones looking at "social" media. There is far less social interaction taking place than ever before. People are not practicing their social skills anymore and it shows whenever you can get one to react.

And what exactly do you call a 3rd place? Restraurants, bars, cafes, libraries? Those places are dying out because of social media and other forms of electronic entertainment that involves your nose buried in a phone.

Instead of going out to eat, losers will use their electronic device to order ubereats so they don't have to interact with a human, further eroding their social skills.

I'll give you some quick examples of what I mean by erasure of 3rd places:

• Shopping malls are completely dead
• Entertainment/nightlife is dying (it was already dying before Covid, and post-Covid it's only gotten worse)
• Coffee shops went from social hangouts to office spaces
• Public spaces, parks, plazas, outdoor venues/markets, dense urban areas are being erased or commercialized/corporitized
• Increasing suburban sprawl and car-dependency (which decreases social cohesion in and of itself)
• Erasure of mixed-use urbanist zones in cities (everything now is either single family homes or purely commercial spaces)
• Community groups/events like sports clubs, trivia nights, bowling leagues, hobby shops, etc, are dying
• Rent/homeownership is decreasing, as is car ownership, leading to even more isolation

I don't blame social media on much of this. I've recently begun to view social media as a symptom, not a cause. The reason people are using it so much now is they don't have an alternative.

People made the same arguments towards social media that they used to make towards printing press/newspapers, television, radio, telephones, video games, etc. History does not repeat, it rhymes. While I do abhor social media and recognize it as a net negative for society, I think people are too quick to blame it on everything.

I’m sorry, but this sounds a lot like the same “things were better back in the day” argument that every generation tends to make.

It is no secret that as people get older, the dating pool naturally changes and often decreases in both size and quality. A lot of that simply reflects the stage of life people are in and the experiences they’ve accumulated.

Look at my above post. I am extremely aware of this, and I despise nostalgic thinking. People will look back on the 2020s with the same reverence we look back on the 90s and 2000s today. Mark my words.

My original post though is NOT unfounded. Feminism IS getting worse. However, I don't think people realize this has been building for DECADES. Two big factors that led to this were 1) introducing women into the workforce/politics 2) the rapid adoption and availibility of birth control for women. The things that are happening today were already starting to happen in the 90s, it's just at it's boiling point now.

Two. Nothing interesting about it, it's called that's how life works.

You can cry about it or you can do something about it.

I always am the doer, never the crier.

You can fix it for yourself. By all means, you should do that. But as @The Duke alluded to in earlier comment, if you anesthetize yourself to the world burning around you, that doesn't change the fact that the world is burning around you. At a certain point, being passive and living in a bubble is only making the problem worse for the rest of society. At some point it almost becomes civic duty to realize we are a part of society and have an obligation to fix it.

As men should be developing solutions that will improve the situation on a fundamental cultural levels. This can be things as simple as punishing low quality women (by ignoring them), not participating in infidelity and destroying marraiges, not pumping and dumping mid-tier women and making them alpha widowed, and probably most importantly, being willing to take the L instead of saying or doing whatever it takes to get pvssy. I really believe one of the reasons women have gotten so bad is they go their whole lives without being told "no" and are used to weak men agreeing and affirming everything they say and do in a pathetic attempt to get a crumb of pvssy.