"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Date Was A Disaster..But I Enjoyed It.

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So I had a date with this online chick.


She seemed ok looking, a little bigger in size compared to her pictures.

To be honest, I didn't fancy her much.. I like slim girls.

Anyhow we got chatting.. Conversation seemed fine.. I went to the bar, and grabbed a drink..

When I can back she said this to me..

Her - Your quite short arn't you (I am 5ft8)

Me - Yes I am.. Your quite over weight arn't you, guess we have to make the best of we have been given.


She didn't like my response one bit, her fukin jaw dropped... Anyway I didn't give a fuk.. I don't bang fatties, so I finished my drink pronto, and left the bar, with her her still sat on her big ass on the couch.

Overall it was a good date.. Satisfying.. She drove all the way to come see me, the bar is two minutes from my house... I made zero effort.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So I had a date with this online chick.


She seemed ok looking, a little bigger in size compared to her pictures.

To be honest, I didn't fancy her much.. I like slim girls.

Anyhow we got chatting.. Conversation seemed fine.. I went to the bar, and grabbed a drink..

When I can back she said this to me..

Her - Your quite short arn't you (I am 5ft8)

Me - Yes I am.. Your quite over weight arn't you, guess we have to make the best of we have been given.


She didn't like my response one bit, her fukin jaw dropped... Anyway I didn't give a fuk.. I don't bang fatties, so I finished my drink pronto, and left the bar, with her her still sat on her big ass on the couch.

Overall it was a good date.. Satisfying.. She drove all the way to come see me, the bar is two minutes from my house... I made zero effort.
Dude!! I love it. I'm going to use that. That made my day. Lol.
 

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Best response to a height jab is “height doesn’t matter if I’m laying on my back and you’re on top”.lol
 

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Probably her attempt to toss a neg. Loved your response.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Anyhow we got chatting.. Conversation seemed fine.. I went to the bar, and grabbed a drink..
Let me picture this so I can savor. You brought her to a bar and just sat there at a table, nothing was ordered, just chatting. Then you go to the bar, grab yourself a drink, come back and she gives you this rude comment, like wtf dude, where is my drink. You pour one down the hatch and tell the fat joke and leave!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Me - Yes I am.. Your quite over weight arn't you, guess we have to make the best of we have been given.
The funniest part is that your response isn't even accurate. You can't change your height, but she could certainly lose weight. You were given your height, she wasn't given her weight.

Point is, it's worse to complain about height than weight.
 

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The funniest part is that your response isn't even accurate. You can't change your height, but she could certainly lose weight. You were given your height, she wasn't given her weight.

Point is, it's worse to complain about height than weight.

Valid point.. However, her response would always be.. 'But I Love These Curves'
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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